What went wrong?
You work at Mc Donald's. Your boss asks how your weekend was. You say, "It wasn't good. My mom and dad were fighting all weekend, and my mom called my dad a loser"
Nope- too personal
You finish cleaning some windows at work and tell your job coach you're done. She tells you to step back and check your work- the windows are still dirty. She gives you some tips on how to clean them better. You say, "Thanks for the help- let me give it another try"
YES!
You are talking to a friend about a topic they like- cats!. It's not your favorite. You say to them, "It sounds like you really like cats- that's awesome". . How does your friend feel? What does your friend think?
Comfortable, valued, understood,
THINK: What a great listener! Good friend
You are playing a game with classmates and you think someone broke the rules. You say , "You guys are all cheaters- I quit!" Is that okay to say?
No!
You are in class, and your classmate is on their phone. You say, "Put that away, we're not allowed to have phone is class"
Your transition teachers asks you to fill out some paperwork for your bus pass, but you are in the middle of watching a cool TikTok. You say, "I'm busy now. I'll do it later"
NO-refusing
When your teacher asks you to pack up your belongings and get ready to head off campus you shout, "I already know!!". She says, please don't yell, and you shout, "I'm not yelling!!!"
How does your teacher feel?
What might your teacher THINK?
How do the other students feel?
What could the consequence be?
FEEL: Disrespected. Shocked, annoyed, insulted
THINK: How rude. He's so immature.
You are doing an activity in the class, and you get a question wrong. You yell, "That's not fair! These questions are too hard!" Is that okay to say?
NO. Negative, complaining,
Your transition teacher is talking about job skills when you remember that you're going to TJ this weekend. You say, "I'm going to TJ this weekend".
Nope- off-topic
You work at Starbucks. Your co-worker asks you how to make a frappucino. You say, "No problem- I"m probably the best frappucino maker in this place. Nobody else really know's what you're doing. Watch me and learn"
No-bragging, insulting
You're on your way to the take the city bus to the mall with your transition class. You stop to look at something interesting across the street and your teacher says, "You need to keep moving". You say, "Oops- sorry!" and keep walking. How might your teacher feel?
Relaxed, proud,
You are annoyed with a student in your class and say, "*&&@@#!".
NO. Curse words are negative, rude, and insulting.
You notice somebody on the bus did not use deodorant. You say, "Use some deodorant man- you stink"
Nope. Bossy. Insulting. About the body. Too personal.
There is a new girl at work, and you think she's so pretty. You noticed that she looks really good in her uniform. You see her and say, "Good morning". Then you get to work.
YES- it's friendly but not too personal.
Your job coach is training you about how to clean the dining area of Peter Piper. You already know what to do. You say, "Are you don't talking already? I know all this stuff". How might your job coach feel? What might they think?
Hurt, offended, insulted
You are playing checkers with friends. Your friend dominated the game. You say, 'Wow- you've got some amazing skills". Can you say this?
Yes!
Your teacher is teaching a lesson on the weather. You say, "I already learned all this. I wish I was in Ms. Russell's class instead"/.
Nope. Bragging. Insulting.
You work at Target. You boss is assigning employees into groups, and says, "I need you to work with Jose"
You say, "No way- he's a jerk. Forget about it".
When she tells you again that you need to work with him, you say, "Don't argue with me!"
NO. This is complaining, negative, insulting, and refusing.
You make a sexual joke in your transition classroom during break time. Three other people think it's funny and laugh, but four other people don't laught. What might your peers feel and think? What would the teacher feel and think? What could the consequences be?
FEEL- uncomfortable, shocked, disappointed
THINK: Eewww gross! He's so immature.
CONSEQUENCE: They avoid you. They talk about you. You have to listen to a lecture.
You are having a disagreement with a classmate. He keeps touching your shoulder and you don't like it. You turn to him and say, "If you touch me again I'm gonna break your hand.