Goal Setting & Decision Making
Jimmy had a decision to make: should he spend his vacation at home hanging out with his best friend or go on a school hiking trip in the mountains? What is the first thing Jimmy should do, following our decision making steps, to make the best decision?
Stop.
When Melanie saw the expression on her friend Ramona's face, she knew something was wrong. Melanie put her arm around Ramona and asked her why she felt sad. Melanie understood her friend's feelings just by looking at her facial expression. What was Melanie able to do?
Recognize the emotions of others.
A new school policy to remove the soda and snack machines has just taken effect. Ralph thinks the new policy is a great start to promoting student health. Roscoe thinks the policy is an infringement on student rights. Even though they engage in intense arguments about it often, they always remember they are good friends and appreciate each other's opinion. What quality do they have for one another that allows them to disagree and still remain friends?
Respect.
Alice and Nicole are best friends. Nicole appreciates that she can tell Alice anything. Whenever Nicole needs to talk out a problem, Alice makes eye contact and asks clarifying questions. What communication skill does Alice use?
Active Listening.
Greg invited Nolen to hang out at his house Friday night. Greg's parents were out of town, and his older brother decided to throw a huge party. What warning sign for violence do you see in this situation?
There is no adult supervision.
Sheila wants to learn how to dance the two-step this summer. She set a goal to show off her routine in the school talent show in the fall. Once Sheila named her goal, she pictured herself performing on stage. What goal-setting step does Sheila need to do next?
Think How to Do It.
When Andrew's girlfriend broke up with him, he was upset and confused. What is a healthy strategy Andrew can use to handle these feelings?
Talk to someone, do positive things that make him happy...etc.
Susan tried out for the school debate team. When she found out she didn't make it, she was upset. Instead of putting herself down, she told herself, "I'll keep practicing and try out again next year." What did Susan use to boost her self-confidence?
Positive Self-talk.
At halftime, Ted went to the concession stand to buy a small bag of popcorn. He looked at his receipt and realized that he was charged for a large size popcorn. Ted went back to the concession stand, politely explained the situation to the attendant, and asked for a refund of the money he was overcharged. The attendant apologized and refunded his money. How would you describe Ted's communication style?
Assertive Communication.
Nora has been posting mean comments about Jenny online for the past two weeks. Finally, Jenny had enough. The next day at school, she went up to Nora and told her, "You don't have to like me or be my friend, but you need to stop posting mean comments about me online." What was Jenny's role in this bullying situation?
Target.
Morgan loved painting. She set a goal to be a great painter. She told herself, "I can improve my painting technique by practicing every day." She wasn't sure she would reach her goal, but she knew it would happen someday. What goal-naming criterion is missing from Morgan's goal?
Specific.
For their picnic, Tara agreed to bring a blanket and lemonade, and Alex agreed to bring sandwiches and a Frisbee. When Alex asked for a glass of lemonade, Tara defensively replied, "I forgot it, but it's not my fault, you didn't remind me." What unhealthy strategy did Tara use to manage anger?
Blame the other person.
Daniel and his Sister Samantha both want to play their new video game, but it's a one-player game. They decide to take turns. Daniel will play for 30 minutes, and then Samantha will play for 30 minutes. What conflict resolution approach did they use?
Compromise.
Allen pressured his friend Richard to steal a comic book from the bookstore. Knowing that shoplifting is wrong, Richard suggested they leave the store and go to library to see if they can check out the book from there instead. Name the peer-pressure refusal strategy that Richard used.
Better Idea.
Karen saw Michelle threaten to beat up a younger student if he didn't hand over his lunch money. Karen had seen Michelle threatening other kids before, and she wanted to do something about it. Karen decided to speak up and talk to her teacher after class. What response did Karen use as a witness to this bullying situation?
Report it.
Tiffany set a goal to audition for the school play, and the big day was finally here! On the way to the audition, her bike got a flat tire. Tiffany knew that she might be late, or worse, miss the audition. What does the flat tire represent in her progress toward reaching her goal?
An Obstacle.
Harry was angry because Toby didn't show up to play kickball on Saturday. Instead of asking Toby why he didn't show up, Harry said to himself, "What a jerk. I'll never invite him to play kickball again." What unhealthy strategy did Harry use to manage anger?
Hold a grudge.
Alison and Mia were deciding how to spend a rainy Saturday afternoon. Alison suggested they go to the museum, but Mia wanted to go to the mall. Then they remembered they both wanted to see the new vampire movie. So, they went to the movies instead. What conflict resolution approach did they use?
Win-Win.
As Alonzo walked up to his friends in the library, he noticed that they were quickly writing down questions from a stolen copy of the history test. He didn't want to be a part of any cheating, so he went to the cafeteria to read instead. Name the peer-pressure refusal strategy that Alonzo used.
Steer Clear.
At first, Darlene didn't realize she was bullying Simon. She just thought she was being funny and joking around. Now, instead of making fun of Simon's shoes, Darlene compliments Simon on his style. After all, she always thought he had good style. She just didn't communicate in a respectful way. What is Darlene using to replace her bullying behavior?
A healthy alternative.
Charlie promised Stan that he would lend him a costume for the Halloween party on Friday. When Charlie heard that Stan was taking the girl that Charlie liked to the party, he was jealous and changed his mind about lending the costume. What influenced Charlie's decision?
His Emotions (Jealousy).
Adam was furious with his brother Corey for taking his ear buds without asking. Adam yelled "You are so annoying, you always take my things. Don't ever ask me for anything ever again." Corey recognized his body signals alerting him that he also was becoming angry. Instead of yelling at his brother he responded by saying. "We can work this out, I don't want our situation to turn into a huge fight." What de-escalation strategy did Corey use?
Use words like "Let's," "We," "Our," and "Together."
Your favorite band is performing a concert in your town. Your best friend promises to go with you so, you buy two tickets. At the last minute, your friend backs out on you. Which conflict resolution approach is the best to use in this situation?
State your feelings and your point of view.
Violent thought it would be a funny prank to take all of the toilet paper out of the bathroom at the mall. Her friends thought that was a mean prank and suggested they do something else to have fun. How would you describe Violet's group of friends?
Positive Peer Group.
Every day on Ricardo's way to school, his neighbor Allen pushes him around and calls him names. Ricardo doesn't have the courage to respond assertively to him. Instead, when Ricardo gets to school, he picks on Jamal. Whenever he sees Jamal walking down the hallway, he trips him and laughs. Why does Ricardo use bullying behavior?
To feel powerful.