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You let your sibling borrow your favorite hat and they lose it.
Say: It bugs me that you lost my hat, I wish you would replace it.
You and a classmate want to choose the same topic for a project but there's only one topic per student.
Say: It bugs me that we have the same topic in mind, I wish we could rock papers scissors to see who gets it
Your friend keeps yelling at you to get their way
Say: It bugs me when you talk to me that way, I wish we could have a conversation using a polite tone of voice and appropriate volume.
You and a friend are playing basketball and your friend won't let you have a turn with the ball
Say: It bugs me when we are playing a game and I don't get a turn, I wish we could take turns with the ball.
Every time your friend comes over they go through your stuff without asking
Say: It bugs me that you go through my things without asking, I wish you would ask first.
You're being blamed for breaking the classroom pencil sharpener but you did not do it.
Talk to the teacher
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
Your friend keeps hiding your pencils and thinks it's funny
Say: It bugs me when you hide my pencils, I wish you would stop.
You were selected to be team captain, but now your good friend is ignoring you because they wanted to be team captain.
Say: It bugs me that we are in a weird place because I was selected for captain, although I understand you wanted it too. I wish you could be happy for me because I am your friend.
You are at the movie theater with your family and your sibling takes the seat you wanted
Say: It bugs me that you took the seat I wanted, I wish we could rock, papers, scissors to see who gets that seat.
A classmate asks you to give them the answers to the homework but you are uncomfortable with it
Say: It bugs me that you're asking me to cheat, I wish you would do your own work. Or ask the teacher if you need help!
One of your good friends keeps littering despite your efforts to not litter.
Say: It bugs me when you litter, I wish you would throw way your trash.
One of your friends wants to play on the playground, and the other wants to play at the basketball court
Say: It bugs me to have to split time in two places, I wish we could play 10 minutes at the playground and 10 minutes at the basketball court.
Every time your friend comes over they are really rough with your games (throwing, slamming, bending)
Say: It bugs me that you play roughly with my games, I wish you would take better care of them so we can continue playing them together
Your friend keeps taking your school supplies without asking.
Say: It bugs me when you take my stuff without asking, I wish you would ask before you take things.
Your friend accused you of talking about them behind their back and they are telling all of your friends not to trust you.
ask them to stop, tell an adult
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
A classmate took credit for cleaning up the bookshelf and was praised for it, even though you did it
Say: It bugs me that you took credit for something that I did, I wish you would stop.