Friends
Your friends came over to your house for a movie night. One of your friends brought another friend so there are more people than you planned for. You want to pass out the drinks but only have five cans of soda and you need 6 for everyone to have one.
How would someone feel if they did not get one?
What could you do?
They may be sad and disappointed that they were excluded.
Not have one yourself or explain the situation to your friends and ask if someone wants a different drink.
There's a new person in class and you really want to invite them to your birthday party, but you have never talked to them before. You are worried they will say no.
What could you do?
Why might they say no?
Ask them anyway.
They do not feel comfortable going to your personal party with many other strangers yet.
After basketball practice you go back to the locker room with your team to change. When you are done dressing, you can't find your shoes.
What could you do?
What would someone think or feel in this situation?
Ask someone if they have an extra pair or if they can help you find your shoes.
Worried you can't find your shoes.
You borrowed your sister's skates one day without asking and they broke while you were using them.
What could you do?
How would she feel?
Explain what happened, apologize, offer to fix or replace them.
Angry you took them and broke them, and sad over not being able to use them anymore.
You got home from school late because you stopped by your teachers class to ask for help. When you walked in the door your mom had a worried look on her face.
Why could she be worried?
What could you do?
You didn't tell her you were going to be late and she was worried about where you were.
Apologize and let her know you will tell her if you will be late in the future.
You are eating at a friend's house and the mom piles your plate full of food. It looks really good and you want to eat it all but you can't because you just ate a snack.
What could you do so you don't hurt her feelings?
Why would not eating with no explanation hurt her feelings?
Apologize and explain that you just ate a snack.
She may think that you do not like the food she made and think she is a horrible cook.
You are taking a test and there is no talking allowed. You are writing your answers and your pencil breaks.
What could do you?
How might someone feel in this situation?
Raise your hand and wait until the teacher speaks with you.
Worried, Frustrated, Nervous, and more that this happened during a test and/or they need to "break" the no talking rule.
You have been waiting all day for lunch to come because you are starving. Finally class gets over and you get to go to lunch. Except, when you go to get your lunch, it's not there. You probably left it at home.
What do you do?
How might someone in this situation be thinking and feeling?
Tell a teacher.
Angry, frustrated, sad, and more that they do not have something to eat.
Your brother is really annoying you and won't leave you alone.
How do you handle this?
What is she feeling and thinking?
Explain you need some alone time and make plans to hang out later as a compromise.
He may be lonely and interested in talking or hanging out with you.
You accidentally broke your mom's picture frame when playing in the house.
What do you do?
How might she feel?
Explain that it was an accident and you would try better next time.
She may be angry and sad that the picture was broken.
Oliver and you were both competing in the school science fair and wanted first place. Oliver had worked hard on his science project, spending hours building a model and preparing his presentation. When the winners were announced, his name was called for first place. Oliver ran up to the stage, grinning from ear to ear.
What do you do?
How do you think Oliver is feeling?
Tell Oliver, "Congratulations."
Oliver is proud, happy, and excited.
You are taking a test and the guy beside you asks for your help. He wants to know what you put for answer number two.
What do you do?
What is he thinking and feeling?
Ignore him, no talking during the test and you don't want the teacher to think you are cheating!
He may be nervous or worried about getting a good grade.
You see someone ask to join the project grop next to you and they say no.
What should you do?
How does that make them feel?
You could ask your group to let them join and welcome them to the group.
They feel: Embarrassed, mad, sad
Your sister keeps hogging the TV and won't let you watch your favorite shows.
What do you do?
What is she thinking and feeling?
Watch it elsewhere or talk to your parents, maybe work out a compromise or schedule.
She is very invested in her shows and may feel irritated you are interrupting her.
You are eating dinner at a nice restaurant with your parents and their friends. You have a really messy dinner and accidentally flip a noodle into the lady's lap. They are busy talking and don't notice.
What do you do?
What will she think and feel?
Say excuse me, bring it to her attention, apologize.
She will be confused and angry/frustrated when she notices the noodle & stain.
Kim's dog passed away yesterday.
What can you do?
What is she thinking and feeling?
Offer condolences. Ask if they want to talk about it.
Kim is very sad.
You were playing tetherball and were the champion so far. In the next game, you slightly touched the rope. Only one student saw you touch the rope.
What do you do?
What are they thinking and feeling?
You confess and get out of the game, good sportsmanship always wins!
They may get frustrated that you won by cheating.
You were at school and you were running in the hallway. You bumped into someone, making them drop all their stuff.
What should you do?
What are they thinking and feeling?
Stop running, apologize, and help them pick up their items.
They may be angry and in shock from the collision.
You are trying to do your homework but your brother's video game is really loud. It's making it difficult for you to focus.
What do you do?
What is he thinking and feeling?
Ask him nicely to turn it down or go somewhere else to do your homework.
He is very focused on his game.
Your parents asked you to finish your report a few nights ago and you said you did. Now it is the night before it is due and you need their help finishing it.
What do you do?
What are they thinking and feeling?
Explain the situation and get their help.
Disappointed/angry you did not start earlier, but may be ready to help you get it done.
Your friend isn't being nice to some peers and wants you to join in. You like those students and don't feel good about doing this.
How do you handle this?
How are those peers feeling and thinking?
Say no thanks and leave the situation or encourage your friend to stop.
They feel hurt and will likely not be friends with you in the future.
The teacher is giving directions, but your friend sitting next to you keeps talking. You can't hear the directions.
What should you do?
What is the teacher or your friend thinking and feeling?
Ask them quietly to be quiet and point out that its hard for you to hear over them, if not privately speak to the teacher afterward explaining the situation and getting the directions.
Your friend may not care. The teacher may be frustrated or disappointed.
You are giving a group presentation in front of the class and it's your turn to talk. All of a sudden you sneeze. You cover it with your hand, but now your nose is really runny.
What could you do?
How would you feel if someone laughed?
Say excuse me and quickly grab a tissue, it happens to us all!
Embarrassed.
You were carrying juice back to the table and your sibling knocked it "accidentally" out of your hands. Now it is all over the floor and your mom wants to know what happened.
What do you do?
What is your sibling thinking and feeling?
What is your mom thinking and feeling?
Explain to your mom what happened so she handles your brother's behavior without you getting into more trouble.
Your sibling may be angry and nervous about what your mom will do.
Your mom may be curious and/or angry.
You are hanging outside with your friend and she decides to pick your neighbor's flowers. She gives you the pretty handful of flowers and right then your neighbor opens the door. She asks you why you picked her flowers.
What could you do?
What is she thinking and feeling?
Apologize and offer to replace them, talk with your friend and both parents later.
She put time, care, and energy into her flowers and may be angry or sad that ruined her work.