People Skills (Social Skills)
You want to talk to your friend. What should you do first?
1. Interrupt what they're doing to tell them a story
2. Gain their attention & greet them.
2. Gain their attention & greet them.
Demonstrate this with a classmate.
Which question word do we use to find out the person?
Who
Your friend says, "I went to the arcade this weekend." What can you say to respond?
Option 1: Why do you like chocolate chip cookies?
Option 2: That's cool! What was your favorite game?
That's cool! What was your favorite game?
You should follow this conversation rule to show that you are interested in the topic that someone is talking about. If you don't follow this rule, people might think you are rude or self-centered.
Option 1: What is talking only about my favorite things?
Option 2: What is "staying on topic"?
What is "staying on topic"?
This skill is anything a person does to keep themselves calm or calm down after a stressful event?
Option 1: What is a coping or self-calming skill?
Option 2: What is yelling, crying, and stomping around the room?
What is a coping or self-calming skill?
After you greet a peer, what is the best way to continue the conversation?
1. Ask a question
2. Give them a compliment and walk away
1. Ask a question
Examples: How's it going? How are you? How's your day been?
Which question word do we use to find out the time?
When
Your mom says, "I have had a hard day." What can you say to respond?
Option 1: What happened?
Option 2: What's for dinner?
What happened?
Talking to someone while looking down or around the room means that you are not using this important people skill?
Option 1: What is "I'm doing my own thing and that's ok!"
Option 2: What is "whole body listening"?
What is "whole body listening"?
This coping (self-calming) skill can be used anytime and anywhere and really only requires your lungs, mouth, nose, and of course attention!
Option 1: What is screaming?
Option 2: What is deep breathing?
What is deep breathing?
This skill is used to figure out what people around you are thinking and feeling. If you use this skill correctly, you can give a good guess about what others in the room might be thinking or feeling about you.
Option 1: What is daydreaming?
Option 2: What is "thinking with your eyes"?
What is "thinking with your eyes"?
Which question word do we use to find out the place?
Where
You want to play with your sister. She says, "I want to play Pop the Pig" but you want to play Monopoly. What can you say to respond?
Option 1: Why do you hate me?
Option 2: Let's compromise! First, we'll play Pop the Pig, then we'll play Monopoly.
Let's compromise! First, we'll play Pop the Pig, then we'll play Monopoly.
When someone is talking and you show that you are listening by saying comments like, "Same! Cool! or Wow!" you are using this conversation skill.
Option 1: What is "active listening"?
Option 2: What is ignoring the person and rolling my eyes?
What is "active listening"?
When I get to know someone, I can do this to grow our friendship?
Option 1: What is remember things they've told me about themselves?
Option 2: What is pretend like I don't care that much?
What is remember things they've told me about themselves?
You're having a conversation with your friend, but it is time for you to leave for counseling. How could you end the conversation?
"I have to go to counseling. I'll talk to you later!"
Which question word do we use to find out the reason?
Why
You are having a conversation with your teacher about the school break coming up. Your teacher is asking you questions about where you will go, what you will do and who you will be with. How do you keep the conversation going?
Option 1: Walk away
Option 2: Ask your teacher questions about his/her break
Ask your teacher questions about his/her break
Make sure you do this before starting any conversation!!!!
Option 1: What is dance?
Option 2: What is say "Hello"?
What is say "Hello"?
These three healthy choices I make can help me stay calm, happy, and in the green zone.
Option 1: What is staying up late, eating lots of sugar, and playing video games all day/night?
Option 2: What is getting enough sleep, eating fruits and vegetables, and getting exercise?
What is getting enough sleep, eating fruits and vegetables, and getting exercise?
Start a conversation with your friend Joe about your weekend.
Remember the steps to a conversation
1. Greet
2. Ask Questions
3. Stay on topic
4. Explain Goodbye
5. Bye
Example: Hi, Joe. I'm glad to see you today.
Ask a classmate a question about one of their interests.
Examples:
"What shows do you watch?"
"What games do you like to play?"
"Why do you like monopoly?"
Your friend says, "I can't wait to go to Florida for vacation!"
What wh question can you ask him about his trip?
1. Who are you going with? / Who are you going to visit?
2. What are you going to do in Florida? / What do you like about Florida?
3. Where in Florida are you going?
4. When will you be going to Florida? / When are you coming back?
5. Why do you go to Florida? / Why do you like to go to Florida?
When starting a conversation, if you don't know a person's interests you can always ask them a question about these things...
Option 1: What are past, present, or future things they like or want to do?
Option 2: What is asking them really personal questions that make them feel uncomfortable?
What are past, present, or future things they like or want to do?
This is a coping skill that can be practiced anytime and anywhere that involves being present in the moment and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings WITHOUT any judgment.
Option 1: What is mindfulness or being mindful?
Option 2: What is ignoring problems and feelings?
What is mindfulness or being mindful?