Texting
What is a good way to START texting someone you do not know well?
Talk about a shared experience, like a class or work.
What is a good setting to get to know someone?
group settings
What are the two sides of our conversation meter?
Changing topics too fast --> Staying on one topic for too long
How do we answer a yes/ no question?
yes, and
no, but
Give an example of a big ask
Asking someone out, asking them out to dinner, etc
How should we start a text?
With a common experience or interest, something the other person will want to talk about
If you like someone or ask them out, and they are not interested, what do you do?
Move on!
What are two ways we can fix a conversation 'dead end'
Change the subject to something related (ex. star wars movies to harry potter movies)
Ask a wh- question
Why should we ask people questions?
To get to know them, and make them feel important
Give an example of a small ask
texting, face timing, social media, etc
Why is 'hey what's up' NOT the best way to start a text?
It puts the burden of carrying the conversation on the other person and leaves it up to them to make it interesting.
Why might someone be uncomfortable if you give them a big ask with no build up?
They are not inside your mind! That person will not know if you have liked them or wanted to be friends, so it might feel very out of the blue for them.
How might someone feel if we change the topic too fast?
Uncomfortable, like they have whiplash
What happens if we ask too many questions?
We might seem like an interviewer
What is a tangent?
Talking a lot about something only you are interested in/ one-sided conversation
What is 'ghosting'? Why might someone do this?
when someone stops responding without an explaination. sometimes people do this because it is easier than being honest.
When you are getting to know someone, you should ask them questions and ____
Tell them about yourself!
How do we answer a yes/no question to prevent a conversation dead end?
Add a comment or question to your yes/ no answer!
What might people think if we don't ask enough questions?
They might think we aren't listening
Explain Topic shading
Keeping the conversation moving by linking slightly related topics, like a color gradient!
GOLDEN RULE OF TEXTING
never send more than three texts without a response
Explain small asks versus big asks
Small asks are something that does not put pressure on a person, and are good for someone you don't know well! Big asks are for when you know someone better and might be asking a little more of a person.
How can you tell when someone is done with a conversation?
Looking at their phone, time constraints, you're ready to leave
What kind of questions should we ask someone we're getting to know?
Wh- questions
Open Ended Questions
Not yes/no questions
What should you do if you're interested in being friends with someone, or dating them?
Get to know them! And tell them about you to see if you have any common interests.