You are watching a movie in class but can't stop thinking about the test in the next class.
Stuck
The teacher gives a lot of homework on the same night you have a report due
CAN'T control
Your classmate asks you to play chess and you don't feel like it. You say:
"No thanks, I have a report to finish" or
"No thanks, not today, but maybe another time"
Expected
Your classmate was absent and missed class yesterday; you say "Hey, would you like to copy my notes from yesterday?"
Thinking of Others
Someone falls on the field at lunch and seems like they've hurt their leg pretty badly
Big Reaction
Ask for Adult Help
You realize you forgot to give your friend back his sneakers which he will need after school.
Instead of focusing on it, you tell yourself to wait until the end of the school day and you will meet with him.
Strategy
You know that you want to try out for the school basketball team in the future. You practice everyday with your brother at home to get better.
CAN control
Class has started and you are on your phone.
Unexpected
The expectation for all students is that phones/computers are not used during class unless instructed by staff.
You're having a conversation with a friend and are really excited to tell him what you did over the weekend. You find that you can't stop talking about it because you think it is more exciting than anything else.
Not Thinking of Others
I don't like the activity that was chosen
Small Reaction
You use head phones or music to distract yourself from the people talking in the next room.
Strategy
Student next to me getting upset and loud
CAN'T control
I can't control THEIR behavior, but I can use strategies to help myself be less annoyed.
Your teacher finishes the lesson on earthquakes and asks you to get in groups to talk about it. You want to talk about fortnite, so you start a conversation about that instead.
Unexpected
Your teacher does not expect you to talk about this, though your friends might think it is ok. There are other times to talk about your interests in an expected way.
You are sitting alone at lunch enjoying your quiet time. You see someone who you are friendly with but don't know very well, and they look more upset than usual. Even though you're enjoying your time alone you decide to walk over to them and see how they are doing. You offer to have lunch together.
Thinking of Others
I see someone get hurt badly during lunch football game
Big Reaction
Your teacher hands over the biggest assignment of the year, and there is a spelling mistake right in the middle of it. You raise your hand and tell the whole class multiple times.
Stuck
I need help with an assignment
CAN control.
I can ask a friend or staff for help
Standing up in the lunch room, burping really loud, and then saying "Excuse Me."
Unexpected
The bell rings and you know you need to get to the next class fast and finish the last problem before handing in an assignment. You run out of the class extremely fast without looking or waiting for anyone.
Not Thinking of Others
You forgot your chromebook at home and you have all your assignments completed from the previous night. You text your parents and ask them to bring it but they can't.
Small Reaction
You get a wrong answer in 1st period. For the rest of the day, you don't go to any classes
Stuck
What lesson the teacher decides to teach
CAN'T control
You see someone in the hallway drop their paper, but they don't notice. You pick it up and bring it to them and say "You dropped this." They say "Thank you, that was so nice!" You feel uncomfortable so you run away.
Unexpected
The first thing you did was appropriate. Go you! The next thing you should have done is say you're welcome or introduce yourself or some other polite gesture to close the conversation.
Your classmate is telling their Rose/Thorn and you aren't interested in the topic so you start looking at a book and having side conversations
NOT thinking of others
You would like to make more friends with the new student in your math class. He seems funny and dependable. You start talking about a certain game you are both interested in. When you walk out with him after class you try to strike up a conversation with him but he ignores you and keeps walking. What kind of reaction should I have?
Small Reaction
Your feelings may be hurt, but you should think of the possible explanations for this, try again, and talk to him or another friend.