Coping Skills
Name the 5 things that you notice when you do the 5 senses exercise.
One thing that you can:
1. See
2. Hear
3. Feel
4. Taste
5. Smell
I said "hi" to my friend. She said "hi" and opened her arms while walking towards me.
What does her body language tell me?
She wants to give me a hug.
She's happy to see me.
She is returning my greeting.
She missed me.
What am I doing wrong?
I'm being an interviewer.
I'm not making comments or answering my own questions.
I may be annoying the person that I'm talking to.
My best friend and I joke around about how she loves to talk a lot. Sometimes when she's telling a long story in our friend group, we'll say things like, "we got a Certified Yapper over here," or "she's fluent in Yapanese." We all laugh together.
Is this harmful or playful?
Playful
However, if I notice that my best friend's body language shows me that her feelings have been hurt, I know that I should apologize and let her finish the story.
When I'm at school, I should try to make sure to surround myself with friends whenever I can.
True or False?
Why?
True
Bullies don't usually target people in groups.
Before I react to something stressful, I should _______.
Pause
Calm down
Think about what I'm going to do
I've been talking really loud and for a long time. The boy next to me rolls his eyes.
What does his body language tell me?He is:
Annoyed, Frustrated, or Bored
He wants me to:
Stop talking, let someone else talk, or quiet down
I've been talking to my friend about something for more than 30 seconds and I haven't let me friend say anything to respond.
What am I doing wrong?
I'm hogging the conversation.
I'm not sharing the conversation with others.
I may be annoying my friend.
I may be making them feel unheard or unimportant in the conversation.
When I went to school, a boy pointed to my shoes and says, "Nice shoes, where'd you get them? Your grandma's closet?" I never met the boy before. All of his friends laughed but I didn't.
Is he being playful or harmful?
Harmful
I'm not friends with this boy and he should not feel comfortable saying things to me that are unkind. He is trying to be mean on purpose.
If somebody said something mean to me, I should first try to _____ them or pretend that I don't _______.
Ignore
Care
When I get stressed out, I notice how my body is feeling and try to relax it.
"My shoulders are tense. My hands are shaking. My heart is racing. I should take some deep breaths and try to relax my body."
What is this coping skill called?
Body Scan
Mindful Pause
On the baseball field, a player on the other team saw me bragging about winning the game.
He starts to stand tall with his shoulders back.
What does his body language tell you?
He is:
Mad, Annoyed, Upset, or Frustrated
He wants me to:
Fight, Stop talking/bragging, Go away
My friend was in the middle of talking about his favorite video game. I interrupted him to talk about a kid that was mean to me at school.
What am I doing wrong?
I'm not staying on topic.
I'm not making connecting comments.
I didn't ask to change the topic.
It seems like I'm not listening to what my friend wants to say.
Is this harmful or playful teasing?
If everyone is laughing and they each take turns saying jokes to each other, then they are probably just messing around.
If someone keeps picking on me after I've ignored them, I can tell them that they should stop.
True or False?
Why?
It's important to self advocate for my safety and so that people know my boundaries.
In order to take a deep breath, you should inhale for at least ___ seconds through your nose, and exhale for at least ___ seconds through your mouth.
Inhale: 3 seconds
Exhale: 4-5 seconds
What does his body language tell me?
He is angry.
He is disappointed.
He is upset.
He is about to tell me something serious.
My friend pronounced a word wrong and I told him a couple times that that's not how you say it. He seemed a little frustrated.
What did I do wrong?
I was policing.
I was making a big deal of something that was not important.
I was probably making him feel bad about himself.
I wasn't paying attention to what he actually wanted to tell me.
In my group of friends, we all know that I have a crush on Troy. They usually whisper to me when they see him getting dropped off, "Here comes your booooyfriend."
Is this harmful or playful teasing?
They are probably being playful. Usually, friends joke around about each others' crushes and exaggerate about their relationship. They do it in secret to mess around with each other.
If they were saying it loudly in front of Troy, that probably would've been harmful because they're not being respectful of my privacy and could embarrass both me and my crush.
What could I have done instead?
Ignored him
Pretend like I don't care
Calmly tell him to stop
Name at least 3 coping skills that we've taught in SSG.
Deep breaths
Count to 10
5 senses exercise
Body scans
Visualizing something that makes you happy
I started talking about my favorite subject to someone in social skills group. He tilted his head and raised an eyebrow.
What does his body language tell me?
He is confused.
He doesn't understand what I'm talking about.
What kind of question is this?
"What do you like about FNAF?"
Open-ended question
Is this harmful or playful teasing?
This is harmful teasing.
Even though we're all laughing about it, I'm starting to feel insecure about myself. They might not realize it, but my friends should know better than to joke about something like that. It's never kind to make fun of someone's appearance.
I watched a kid shout to the teacher in the middle of class: "PATRICK KEEPS DRAWING UGLY PICTURES OF ME AND NOW EVERYONE IS LAUGHING AT ME!"
What did he do wrong?
He didn't talk about it privately with the teacher, putting him at risk of getting bullied again in the future.
He didn't try to tell Patrick to stop before seeking help.
He didn't try to calm down before reacting to the situation.