What are VERBAL BOUNDARIES?
Verbal boundaries are the limits on what we say to different types of people.
Stanley was lost and saw a police officer nearby. He did not know this person, but asked the police officer for directions home and told him his address. Did Stanley use safe and appropriate verbal boundaries?
YES! Stanley went to an authority figure and community helper for assistance and shared the necessary information to get help.
Stanley was excited to see his favorite staff at school, so he ran up and jumped on his back to give him a hug. Did Stanley show safe and appropriate boundaries?
NO! Stanley was in the staff's personal space without permission.
Stanley was feeling angry when he got on the elevator. Another person got on the elevator and said hello. Stanley said hello back and started to tell the person how he was having an awful day and how mean someone was at school. Did Stanley use safe and appropriate verbal boundaries?
NO! Stanley was talking to a stranger. If he was feeling upset, Stanley should use a coping skill and go to a trusted friend or adult to talk about his feelings.
Stanley touched his friend's hair without permission. Did Stanley use safe boundaries?
NO! We should not be touching people without their permission. If we need to get someone's attention, we should tap them on the shoulder or say "excuse me".