Responding to Disagreements
This is step 1 of responding to disagreements (hint: involves emotions)
What is "Keeping your cool"
Define reputation
The "social label" that people may have about you based on what they have seen or heard from others.
What is one type of bullying?
Direct: verbal and physical
Indirect: electronic and social
What is the phrase that means: interacting with trolls online makes them stronger (aka " _____ the trolls")
What is "feeding the trolls"
True or False: Talking about other people behind their backs increases your risk of being targeted by rumors
True
Doing this step shows that you have been listening to your friend and it helps your friend feel heard.
What is "repeating what your friend said"
This phrase means keeping a low profile in order to avoid adding to your reputation and gives time for the talk around your reputation to die down.
What is laying low
What is a short comeback you could say that shows the bully that what they said does not bother you?
"Whatever"
"So what?"
"Who cares?"
"And?"
Why is it risky to use teasing comebacks online? (hint: Why is it hard to understand only written words)
It will not show a tone of indifference and it may continue to fuel the fire
When responding to the rumor about you, you want to act shocked by the fact that anyone would even _____ about the rumor to help it die down.
believe or care
What are three ways to keep your cool?
1. Take deep breaths
2. Count to 10
3. Take time away from the situation
True or False: You have to tell others every single thing about your identity and who you are in order to make and keep friends.
False
What is bullying?
A subtype of aggression that involves negative actions that are: 1) repetitive 2)chronic 3) involve a power difference
True or False: Confronting the cyberbully is risky because it can cause more of cyberbullying and gossip
True
A socially helpful way to get ahead of the rumor that is spreading from others is to....
Spread the rumor about yourself in a helpful way that makes people believe about it less or care about it less
1. Find a supportive friend 2. Find an audience. 3. Acknowledge the rumor ("Did you hear the rumor that...") 4. Act amazed anyone would believe or care about the rumor. 5. Repeat with other supportive friends
(4) Act amazed anyone would believe or care about the gossip (example- "Can you believe anyone cares about that?" or "I can't believe anyone would believe that!")
Using this type of statement focus on your own experience and make people feel less defensive.
What is using "I" statements
What are the 4 steps to do to manage your reputation?
1) Lay Low
2) Follow the crowd
3) Change your look
4) Own up to your previous reputation and acknowledge that you are different now
Doing nothing and hoping the teasing stops on its own is socially risky because....
They will keep teasing you
What is one socially helpful way to deal with hurtful comments?
1) Do not respond to them
2) Delete them
3) Block the person who wrote them to avoid them adding more comments
Why is it socially helpful to minimize the rumors spreading about you?
1) Impacts your reputation
2) If you ignore it, they can spread
3) Hurts your ability to make/keep friends
What are the 3 ways to try to resolve a disagreement?
1) Agree to disagree
2) Compromise
3) Tell them what you need next time
How does reputation impact friendships?
Helps or hurts you when you are trying to make or keep friends
Giving big emotional reactions to the teasing is socially risky because....
it makes it more fun for the bully
How is laying low online socially helpful when there is cyberbullying?
By laying low, you take a break from posting or commenting. This allows the bullying to die down and helps the bully forget about the situation.
We have some natural instincts that actually do NOT help us when we deal with rumors. What is one of them?
1) Trying to deny the rumor
2) Becoming defensive
3) Confronting the person spreading the rumor