Conversation Mountain
Why do we have conversations?
To make connections
To build friendships
True or False,
Everyone makes it to the Friends level of friendship.
False. Not everyone is friendship material
True or false,
Deeper Conversation generally comes before small talk..
False.
Small talk comes before deeper conversations.
________ of voice is the way we speak towards others.
We need to be aware of our ______ so we can get our point to others across and have a clear message.
Tone!
Name one of the types of communication...
- aggressive
- assertive
5 steps in the conversation mountain
1. greeting
2.Small talk/wonder questions
3.Deeper conversations
4. Lull
5. Good-byes
The higher the level on the friendship pyramid, the more ____________ you have in that person.
Trust
True or False,
Small talk requires vulnerability
False.
Small talk is not as personal as deeper conversations which requires more vulnerability.
True or False,
It takes only one person to keep a conversation going.
False
Having a reciprocal conversation is like playing tennis or tossing a ball back and forth. It takes more than one person to keep a conversation going, and people must work together for a conversation to flow.
What can social anxiety look like or feel like?
Blush, sweat, or tremble.
Have a rapid heart rate.
Mind going "blank,” or feel sick to your stomach.
Have a rigid body posture or speak with a soft voice.
Find it difficult to make eye contact
Wanting to talk to people but not being able to make yourself speak.
Feel self-consciousness or fear that people will judge you
Avoid places where there are other people.
Panic attacks
Appropriate small talk topics
Weather, Hobbies, Pop Culture, Art, Food, Traveling..
Anyone you've met only once or twice is considered...
A Stranger
True of False,
Deeper Conversations can get into "taboo" topics if the context and audience is right.
True!
Deeper conversation generally has no limits, just be cautious with your audience.
True or False,
Active listening is only shown nonverbally..
False,
Active listening is shown both non-verbally and verbally.
True or False,
Talking space means being respectful towards those we are talking to and letting everyone contribute to the conversation.
True!
What is a lull in a conversation?
Awkward silence or
possible conversation transition
Acquaintance
True or False,
Maintenance questions are questions to follow up with after specific conversations.
True,
Maintenance questions are very good questions to use to show your "audience" that you were listening or remember what they said.
What are some body language sign to look for if someone is interested in conversation.
• They maintain eye contact with you
• They face you directly
• They lean slightly forward or towards you
• They may nod their head
• They may use gestures
• They may use gestures to emphasize or clarify points in the conversation
True or False,
"Get to Know You" Questions are maintenance questions that ask about information from the acquaintance, friend or best friend.
False,
"Get to Know You" Questions are wonder questions that ask about information from the acquaintance, friend or best friend.
When you reach a lull in conversation, what are your 2 options?
Ask a new wonder question
or
close the conversation
True or False,
You can only move up the friendship level...
False,
You can move down levels on the friendship pyramid, if trust is lost the relationship may change.
True or false,
"How is school going? Still having a tough time?" is an example of a wonder question.
False,
It is an example of maintenance question.
What are conversation sign to look for if someone is interested in conversation.
They ask questions about the topic and engage in active listening
They contribute to the conversation with their own thoughts, opinions, and experiences
They may share stories or examples that relate to the topic
They may express interest or curiosity about the topic or ask follow-up questions
They may bring up related topics
True or False,
The lower the level on the friendship pyramid the smaller the amount of people there will be.
False,
The lower the level on the pyramid the larger the amount of people there will be.
We generally have more acquaintances than best friends/close friends.