Trading Information
Name the main goal when trading information
to find a common interest
What is the first skill for having a two-way conversation?
Trading Information
Name some characteristics of a good friend AND a bad friend
Nice and friendly, same interests, interested in you, mutual understanding and comfortable sharing stuff, equal friendship, loyalty
Teases you (even if humorous), bad reputation, likely to get in trouble, nothing in common, friends with people who may not be nice to you
name some rules when starting a phone call
say who you would like to speak to
say your name to let the other person know who is calling
use a cover story for why you are calling
In step 1: watch/listen, what are we watching and listening for when entering a conversation?
what they are talking about
see if we know at least one person
Name two rules for trading information
Ask the other person about themselves
Answer your own question
Find common interest
Share the conversation
Don't get too personal
Don't be a conversation hog
Name two things not to do when having a conversation with someone (e.g. Don't...)
Don't be a conversation hog
Don't be an interviewer
Don't get too personal
Don't be repetitive
Don't tease or criticize
Don't be a police
when texting a potential friends, what is the two message rule?
only send two messages in a row to someone who hasnt been responding to you
give an example of a cover story for why you are calling
calling to see how you are
calling to get the homework
i was wondering what youre up to
name the first 2 steps when exiting a group conversation
look away & keep your cool
Should you ask: "What kind of grades do you have?"
(+50 points if you name the skill)
No
Don't get too personal at first
Name 3 conversational topics, other than anime, sports, or school.
Video games, cars, movies, books, weekend activities, fashion, music, social media,
when is it okay to use the internet to talk to people?
when we already know them in person
give an example of a cover story for ending the phone call
have to go eat dinner
have to do homework
i better get going
when entering a conversation and checking for signs of interest, how can you tell when someone is interested in talking to you? Name 3 things
little eye contact
rolling eyes
ignoring you
group members turn away from you
laughing or making fun of you
Name this skill: giving the other person a chance to answer and ask you a question or by following up with another question
Share the conversation
What kind...? What types of...?
to expand the conversation and lead to more conversation.
What is wrong with this situation? (2 things)
You meet someone at school and look up their Tiktok/Instagram when you get home. You send them a follow request and message with your phone number. Afterwards, you share a post about your deepest feelings.
What are the steps for ending a phone call after you have given your cover story?
Tell the person it was nice talking to them, you will see them later, and then say good-bye.
when entering a conversation what are we waiting for?
a pause or break in the conversation
Role play trading information and find common interest
(Must find a common interest to get full points)
https://www.semel.ucla.edu/peers/video/starting-individual-conversation-bad-example
What did she do wrong and what skills should she have used?
First find common interest
Bad time and did not accept that or read her body language
What are some reasons you wouldn't join a group or initiate friendship even though you have a common interest?
They are more popular
May hang out with people that will tease you
May be much older
They may talk about other things you are not interested in
Differences in strengths and abilities
Role play starting AND ending a phone call
https://www.semel.ucla.edu/peers/video/entering-group-conversation-good-example
What 3 skills she did right?
Watch/listen
Wait for pause
Wondering gaze
Sharing the conversation
Open ended questions