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Expected Behaviors
Unexpected Behaviors
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Self-Talk
Bullying or Peer Conflict?
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What does the term "expected behaviors" mean?
Things we do or say that give others good thoughts and feelings about us.
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Things we do or say that give others not so good thoughts and feelings about us.
Unexpected behaviors
100
SHOW AND TELL: What does it look like when your body is with the group?
When your body is with the group, your body is turned toward the speaker or group.
100

What is positive self-talk?

Positive self-talk makes you feel good about yourself and the things that are going on in your life. It's like having an optimistic voice in your head that always looks on the bright side.

100

Is this bullying or peer conflict? Why?

Alison told the girls at lunch that Erica was flirting with Alison's boyfriend. Alison told Erican that she couldn't sit with them at lunch and some of the girls are not talking to erica anymore.

Peer Conflict.

There is no imbalance of power.

Is it ongoing? 

Is there a threat of violence?

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What kind of thoughts do people have about us when we show expected behaviors?
Good thoughts
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An uncomfortable feeling someone might feel when you are showing unexpected behaviors is __________________. (name a feeling)
Frustrated, angry, upset, sad, etc.
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SHOW AND TELL: What does it mean when your brain is with the group?
When your brain is with the group, you are paying attention to what is happening in the group and thinking about what others are saying.
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What is negative self-talk? Give an example.

Negative self-talk is any inner dialogue you have with yourself that may be limiting your ability to believe in yourself and your own abilities.

Example: I'm so dumb, I'm never going to learn this! 

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Is this bullying or peer conflict? Why? What should Ian do?

Tyler is in 8th grade and when he walks by the 6th grade lockers, he pushes into Ian with his shoulder. Tyler does it "just for fun."

Bullying. There is an age difference and physical involvement. 

Ian should talk to an adult about this. He could also tell Tyler that is not ok and he needs to stop.


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What kind of smarts are you using when you show expected behaviors?
Social Smarts
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TRUE OR FALSE: All unexpected behaviors are inappropriate in every situation.
FALSE: An unexpected behavior in one setting can be appropriate or expected in another situation.
300
Tell about a time when you were showing UNEXPECTED behaviors. How did others think and feel about you? What could you have done to turn your unexpected behavior into an expected behavior?
Give example
300

Is this positive or negative self-talk?

No one ever wants to play with me.

Negative Self-Talk

Bonus: What could you say instead?

300

Why do you think Tyler picks on younger students?

Explanation.

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Social expectations that teachers, parents or peers don't talk about but that we are expected to follow based on what's happening around us.
Hidden rules/expectations
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When we show unexpected behaviors, people may have ______________ thoughts and feelings about us.
Uncomfortable/Not so good
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Your friend is showing an unexpected behavior during class. How can you tell him without you yourself showing an unexpected behavior?
Give example
400

Is this negative or positive self-talk?

I don't deserve a good life.

Negative Self-Talk

Bonus-What could you tell yourself instead?

400

Leon is in your physical education class and constantly brags about his athletic ability. He puts down those that aren't as athletically gifted. Is Leon a bully? Why?

It is repetitive.

Is there a power difference?

Is there a verbal or physical threat?


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TRUE OR FALSE: Expected behaviors for teachers can be unexpected behaviors for students.
TRUE
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TRUE OR FALSE: When we are showing unexpected behaviors, we can fix it by turning them into expected behaviors.
TRUE. You can turn an unexpected behavior into an expected behavior by being more aware of the things you do and say.
500
Give an example of an EXPECTED behavior for teachers that is UNEXPECTED for students.
Give example
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How can negative self-talk affect your life?

  • Limited thinking: The more you tell yourself you can't do something, the more you believe it.
  • Perfectionism: You begin to really believe that "great" isn't as good as "perfect," and you always try to be perfect.
  • Feelings of sadness/helplessness: Some research has shown that negative self-talk can lead to depression.
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How should the teacher handle this situation?

Explanation.