Expected vs. Unexpected
Your pencil broke, so you get a new one out or ask for a new one calmly.
Expected
Your pencil broke.
Small problem.
Your grandpa gives you $10. As you walk away you hear him ask, "Didn't you forget something?" What does grandpa mean?
a) You forgot the money.
b) You forgot to say "thank you."
c) You forgot to tell me where you're going.
B- you forgot to say "thank you."
You told your friend you would play with them at recess, but forgot and played with someone else instead.
Confused, hurt, disappointed, upset
You're really tired and have to get ready for school work.
Do some jumping jacks, drink a glass of water, ask for a hug, wash your face, chew a crunchy snack
You lost a card game and threw your cards across the room before stomping away.
Unexpected.
Your sibling took something and won't give it back after you asked.
Medium problem.
You ask some other kids if you can join their basketball game. One of them says, "Our teams are even right now." What does the boy mean?
a) You can be on my team
b) We don't have enough players
c) We don't need another player right now
C- we don't need another player right now.
Mom asked you to do your homework and clean up your room, but you ignored her to play your video game instead.
Your favorite toy broke and you are really mad.
Deep breath, play with something else, write how you're feeling, go play outside, ask for help to fix it, squeeze something
Your teacher asked your to put your work away, but you're not finished and ignore her to keep working anyway.
Unexpected.
You get home from school, and no one is there to get you off the bus.
Medium problem.
Your class is going on a field trip. Your teacher goes over the rules and says, "Please remember that you are fifth graders." What does your teacher mean?
a) Remember what group you're in.
b) Remember that she teaches fifth grade.
c) Fifth graders should be well behaved.
C- 5th graders should be be well behaved.
Your friend just won against you while playing a new game!
Happy, excited, proud
You miss your friends and are feeling really sad.
Write them a letter, video chat with them, talk to someone about it, draw a picture
Mom or dad changed the plan and made tacos instead of pizza for dinner without telling you. You yell at them and slam your bedroom door.
Unexpected.
People got into a car accident and are hurt.
Big problem.
You are standing with your mom in the grocery store. Someone is behind you and clears their throat saying "ah-hem", and taps their foot impatiently. What does this mean?
a) they have a sore throat,
b) they want you to move out of the way,
c) you can't tell.
B- they want you to move out of their way.
Your neighbor slipped on ice while going to get his mail, and you laughed at him.
Hurt, angry, upset, confused, embarrassed
You are really excited to see your class on video chat, but have to be focused on school work.
deep breaths, wall push ups, pillow squishes, drink water, chew a crunchy snack, weighted blanket/animal
Your friend decided she wants to play a different game at recess with someone else. You ask to join and all play together.
Expected.
You can't go the park because it's raining, and have to play inside instead.
Small problem.
You are excited to tell your friend a new joke and run over to them! You start whispering the joke in their ear and your friend crosses their arms and takes a step back. What does this mean?
a) you are standing too close,
b) your friend doesn't like the joke
c) they don't want to be your friend anymore.
A- you are standing too close.
You wrote your sibling a nice note thanking them for being a good brother/sister.
Appreciated, happy, loving
You are overly excited about a Halloween party at school.
deep breaths, think happy thoughts, be a good sport, stay positive, help others, talk a walk