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Social Detective
Expected vs Unexpected
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What does that mean?
Whole body listening
100
Your friend told you that his dog is really sick? Use your heart to respond to your friend.
I'm really sorry. Is there anything I can do to cheer you up?
100
Your friend asks you to stop making noises in the classroom and you continue to do it over and over again. Is that expected or unexpected? How does this make your friend feel? What zone is your friend in?
UNEXPECTED behavior. Angry, annoyed, upset, frustrated. Yellow Zone.
100
Your teacher is teaching a lesson and one of your classmates is singing out loud. What zone is he in? What tool could he use?
Yellow Zone. Take a walk, ask for a break, drink water, use his channel changer.
100
Your grandpa gives you $10. As you walk away you hear him ask, "Didn't you forget something?" What does grandpa mean? a) You forgot the money. b) You forgot to say "thank you." c) You forgot to tell me where you're going.
B. When someone gives you something, it is expected that you say thank you in acknowledgement. Grandpa's question is his clue to help you remember that a thank you is needed.
100
William’s teacher was giving directions for how to do math problems. William was scribbling on his paper. His feet were swinging back and forth under his desk. Was William using whole body listening?
NO. William needs to work on keeping his hands and feet still to use whole body listening.
200
Susan is on the phone in the office and does not acknowledge that you are standing there. You want to say hello and ask her about her weekend. Is this a good time? Why or why not?
This is not a good time. If you use your eyes, you can make a smart guess that Susan is busy and you should come back later.
200
Someone asks you to leave them alone but you keep bothering them anyway. Is this an EXPECTED or UNEXPECTED behavior?
UNEXPECTED behavior. If someone asks you to leave him alone, it is EXPECTED that you would walk away. By continuing to bother him, you are using UNEXPECTED behaviors and causing others to have weird thoughts about your behavior.
200
Mary has her graded science test on her desk and she is sitting tall with a huge smile on her face. She received a good grade. Is this a SMART guess or WACKY guess?
SMART guess. She is sitting tall because she feels proud of her accomplishment. She has a smile because she is happy she did well on the test.
200
You ask some of the boys if you can join their basketball game. One of them says, "Our teams are even right now." What does the boy mean? a) You can be on my team b) We don't have enough players c) We don't need another player right now
C. When the boy says that the teams are even, he is telling you that if you were to join in, the teams would become uneven and it would give a team an unfair advantage.
200
Cindy is in class listening to her teacher speak about turtles. She is very interested and is sitting tall in her desk facing the teacher with her hands clasped together on top of her desk. Her feet are under her desk and still. She is listening closely and thinking about how to answer the questions. when she figures an answer out, she raises her hand. Is Cindy using whole body listening?
YES! Cindy has a quiet body and has her attention focused on what the teacher is saying. She is listening with her brain and heart by trying to come up with answers to the teacher's questions. Her teacher recognizes that she is using whole body listening and has good thoughts about Cindy.
300
It is Tuesday morning. Matthew and his brother have left their house and are walking toward the end of the street. Both boys have backpacks and lunch boxes. Use your eyes and brain to make a smart guess about where they are going?
They have a backpack and lunchbox. They are probably going to school.
300
You see your friend on Monday morning and start a conversation with him by asking him what he did over the weekend. Is this an EXPECTED or UNEXPECTED behavior?
EXPECTED behavior. When you see your friends, it is an expected behavior to talk about what happened over the weekend or the previous night especially if you know someone did something really exciting.
300
You are sitting at the table in a small group and the person sitting next to you is tapping his fingers and stomping his feet. Is he using whole body listening? What tells you this?d
He is not using whole body listening. His fingers and feet are not still. He needs to practice keeping his feet and fingers still to show he is using whole body listening.
300
Your class is going on a field trip. Your teacher goes over the rules and says, "Please remember that you are fifth graders." What does your teacher mean? a) Remember what group you're in. b) Remember that she teaches fifth grade. c) Fifth graders should behave well.
C. By the fifth grade, you have learned the expected behaviors when on a field trip. It is expected that you are aware of and follow these behaviors without reminders.
300
The teacher is smiling at her class. Each student is facing and looking at her with quiet feet, hands, mouth and body listening to what the teacher is saying. Hands go up to answer the questions being asked with thoughtful answers. Is the class demonstrating whole body listening?
YES, the class is using whole body listening. Their bodies are quiet, with their eyes on the teacher. Their thoughtful answers show they are thinking about and caring what the teacher is saying. The teacher is smiling because she has good thoughts about her class.
400
After school on Tuesday, Jan puts on a pink leotard with tights and ballet shoes. Matthew thinks Jan is going to ballet class. Is Matthew a good social detective?
Yes, he made a smart guess by looking at Jan's outfit/clothes.
400
A fellow student is talking about the new puppy he got and you say "Wow, that's cool!! What kind of dog did you get?". Is this an EXPECTED or UNEXPECTED behavior?
EXPECTED behavior. By asking what kind of dog he got, you are showing that you are listening with both your brain and heart. You are not only thinking but also caring about what he is saying by asking a question that shows you were listening. Your friend will be really happy to answer the question.
400
You are sitting in a group and one of your classmates asks to sit with you. You say "NO" and then ignore him. What is your classmate thinking?
I feel so bad. I wish he was nicer to me.
400
You sit down next to a group of kids in the library. One of them says, "We're studying for a test." What does this student mean? a) Someone else is sitting there. b) We'd like you to help us study. c) We don't want you to sit here.
c
400
Kenny is standing in line outside of the art classroom waiting to go in. He is jumping up and down to peek into the windows. He does not hear the teacher asking him to stop because he is also singing very loudly. Is Kenny using whole body listening?
NO. Kenny is not listening with his body, ears or mouth. His body should be still and facing forward, his mouth should not be making any noises and his ears should be listening for any directions being given. Kenny needs practice with whole body listening.
500
The teachers are in the teacher's lounge eating lunch and drinking coffee. Use your social detective tools: Is this a good time to come chat with them? Why or why not?
This is not a good time. It is unexpected to go into the teacher's lounge.
500
Your friend tells you he's feeling sad and your response is "I got a dog this weekend". Is this expected or unexpected? Why? What part of whole body listening did you not use?
UNEXPECTED behavior. You were not listening with your heart.
500
You are talking to your friend while the teacher is teaching her lesson. Is this an EXPECTED or UNEXPECTED behavior?
UNEXPECTED behavior. Speaking while the teacher (or anyone else) is speaking makes it difficult for others to hear the teacher. You are causing others to miss out on important information being shared. Your conversation is best held on the playground or during lunch.
500
Alyssa did not study for her science test. She played video games instead of studying. When she did not pass the test, her teacher said, “Alyssa, it’s your own fault.” What does it mean? A. Alyssa’s teacher does not like her., B. The teacher made the test too hard., C. Alyssa did not make good choices and study for the test.
C. Because Alyssa chose to not study, the grade she got was the result. Her teacher may not have known Alyssa played videos, but she knew Alyssa did not study and therefore got the grade she deserved; that it was Alyssa's fault she didn't pass the test.
500
Noel's eyes and body are facing the teacher but she is thinking about her new kitten. She cannot wait until after school to play with her new pet. When the teacher calls on Noel to answer a question, she has to say "I don't know." Was Noel using whole body listening?
NO. Although Noel's body was quiet and her eyes were looking at her teacher, she was not listening with her ears or brain. She was daydreaming. Noel needs to remember to use her ears and brain to listen to her teacher when she is teaching a lesson.