We are continually learning information about others and filing it in an organized way in our brains so we can recall it later when we see those people again.
What are friend files?
100
The mental flexibility to interpret verbal and nonverbal information based on different points of view or different contexts.
What are flexible thinking and flexible brain?
100
This means that you use your eyes to figure out what nonverbal messages others are sending. This is accomplished through reading others' eye-gaze directions, facial expressions and body language.
What is thinking with your eyes?
100
Taking information you already know and making an educated guess based on that information.
What is making a smart guess?
100
Rules that are not clearly announced, but instead are learned through observation and experience, i.e., keeping your shoes on at school.
What is following the hidden rules?
200
We're supposed to have a social curiosity about others and that we can NEVER know everything there is to know about someone. This means that you have a thought about someone's experience or beliefs and then you ask a question or make a comment related to that thought.
What is social wondering?
200
This refers to how our actions, words, physical dress or hygiene create good and weird impressions in others' brains. People remember the impressions they have about someone else, good and weird.
What are blue thoughts (good thoughts) and red thoughts (weird/bad thoughts)?
200
Our bodies need to look interested and connected to the group and our brains need to keep thinking about what the group is thinking about to participate in the group.
What is keeping your body and brain in the group?
200
Making a guess when you have absolutely no information to help you figure out what the guess should be. In school, teachers rarely ask for this type of guess unless students are playing a silly game.
What is making a wacky guess?
200
A range of hidden rules we follow in every situation.
What are expected behaviors?
300
A comment that is completely disconnected to what has been previously said.
What is a whopping topic change?
300
A set of socially acceptable behaviors that we demonstrate when we're not interested in what the group is doing at that moment but we still hang in there and do not distract other people.
What is tolerating the boring moments?
300
A student's body is turned or has physically moved away from the group and it appears that the student's body is too far away from the group to be an active participant.
What is your body rolled out of the group?
300
Asking people questions about their interests or thoughts.
What is asking people questions?
300
This is used to demonstrate interest in someone else's topic that you do not find inherently fascinating.
What is a social fake?
400
This person keeps their body in the group, uses friendly words, keeps thinking about what the group is doing, is a flexible about winning or losing, shares, thinks of others' plans, etc.
What is a friend?
400
Observing people's physical actions or comments to determine what they plan to do next.
What is figuring out other people's plans?
400
The student's brain is distracted from what the group is doing; the other people in the group notice that he does not appear to be mentally working as part of the group even though his body is still in the group.
What is your brain rolled out of the group?
400
Questions you ask people to try to get them to talk about what you want to talk about (i.e., "Did anyone go to Hawaii this summer?").
What are baiting or bridging questions?
400
Failing to follow a set of hidden or stated rules in a specific environment.
What are unexpected behaviors?
500
1. Thinking about others and others thinking about you
2. Creating a physical presence
3. Thinking with your eyes
4. Using language to relate to others
What are the 4 steps of communication?
500
Understanding that problems differ in severity helps one react appropriately to these problems.
What is a tiny problem vs. a big (earthquake) problem?
500
Eyes, ears, mouth, hands, feet, shoulders, torso and brain need to be focused on the group in order to listen and to show others that you are listening.
What is whole body listening?
500
When talking to others, we consider how their experiences related to our experiences, then we add our own ideas to help connect our lives to their lives.
What is add-a-thought?
500
The social rules that you learn as a child change as you grow older. Things that were acceptable for you to do as a child may not be acceptable when you are older. For example, apologizing by simply saying, "I'm sorry" is okay for an 8-year-old, but by 15 you have to show you're sorry through your actions AND words.