The Silent Treatment is which inappropriate anger response
Aggressive
List 3 Upstander responses:
I statement, Silent Stare, Distraction, Humor, Group Intervention, Bring it Home, We're Friends, Right?
Bullying is peer on peer abuse, it involves what 3 people?
Bully
Victim/Target
Bystander (Hopefully an upstander)
Specific ACTION demonstrated in a Healthy romantic relationship
--encourage time apart to be with others
--support each other interest
--provide personal space
--take responsibility for a jealous act
--Learn and give their Love Language
If you only hold hands, hug and kiss, you are staying ABOVE “the line” (sexually abstaining)
TRUE or FALSE
TRUE
What are 3 healthy responses you can choose when you get angry?
-- Subtle Physical response (hands stretching behind my back, scrunching my toes), Calming self-talk “I am allowed to be mad, but why is this making me angry?, I need to practice Fast Forwarding”
-- Vent to someone and then solve the problem, Guided Imagery, strategy breathe, walk away come back when calm
-- Is this a “10?” Scream in a pillow, exercise, focus on your goals, get help
Your friend is being verbally abused by their partner. Describe how you could effectively use one of the Upstander Responses.
--Group intervention: Get a group of friends to walk over to the situation and bring the abused partner (victim) away from it.
--Bring It Home--What if someone talked to your sister like that?
If you are confronted by a bully you should:
---Show that it doesn’t bother you, remain calm and in control
---Be assertive: calmly and respectfully ask the bully to stop
---Walk away, go to a safe area with friends or adults, Don’t fight back, someone could get seriously hurt or killed
--Use an Upstander skill
Reason it is important to be part of a group?
--shared interests helps create friendships
--time with others helps you learn more about yourself
--takes you away from other stressors
--can help you become socially balanced
Give an example of each form of LOVE LANGUAGE. There are 5:
State the Love Language 1st, then give an example
Words of affirmation: I am so proud of you, You are so smart, You look beautiful/handsome
Gifts: notes in the lunch box, fresh picked wild flowers, love letter, poem, gumball machine gift, shopping trip
Physical touch: Holding hands, head/hair caress, hugging, kissing, foot massage,---when married-below the line
Quality time: picnic, walk and talk, beach and sunset, work out together, car ride and talk,
Acts of Service: Help with homework or chores, help with any responsibility, show support
Fred knows he is angry with his best friend, but he just doesn’t think he can confront him. Instead he yells at his brother when he gets home.
Which inappropriate form of anger?
--Displacement
20. Define Violence:
use of _______ with the intent to ________ or _____.
20. use of force with the intent to injure or kill.
What does Reflective Listening (“so what you are saying is….”) prove?
--Proves you were LISTENING to the other person’s words, perspective, position
List 3 qualities of healthy relationships
Love, acceptance, support, trust, communication, honesty, problem solving
List 3 Tough teen dating issues:
-- Jealousy, unrealistic expectations
-- Fear of rejection, lack of maturity, PASSION
-- Not communicating in an assertive way
Which type of person stands up for themselves, expresses their feelings in a nonthreatening way, communicates clearly, respectfully, and honestly.
(Calm, clear, honest, respectful)
ASSERTIVE (calm, clear, honest, respectful)
Poverty, media violence, family violence, availability of weapons, drug abuse, and gang membership are NEVER risk factors for violence
TRUE or FALSE
FALSE
When using REFUSAL Skills show your concern for the person pressuring you to skip class
I am concerned for YOU when you ask me to skip class because ____________________________
_____you are getting in a bad habit of avoiding class
____you will miss the content
List 3 stressors that have potential for conflict in families with teens
--choice of friends, romantic relationships
---choice of clothes, hair, make-up, jewelry, tattooing
--self-destructive behaviors
If you choose to stay above “the line”, you have a greater chance of success in later relationship because _________________
____you have less negative consequences.
You don’t like playing competitive soccer anymore, what are inappropriate anger PASSIVE responses?
-- Complain to your friends
-- Never practice, and show up late to practice
-- Intentionally play bad
List 3 reasons fights often start:
arguments, embarrassment, hurt pride
peer pressure, prejudice
revenge, control issues
When using REFUSAL Skills what are 2 other options one can recommend instead of letting someone cheat off of them on a test?
--study with them during seminar
--quiz each other after class
--create a Quizlet together
Getting relationship information from friends can be dangerous because
--My friends might not know all the facts, they can give me incorrect/untrue information/myths
List 3 possible consequences if you choose to go BELOW “the line”.
Do NOT say pregnancy or STD/STI
--more stress
--feel less like a teen
--emotionally connected to that person
--struggles with other relationships
--distracted from my goals