Early Warning Signs
This (or these) feeling(s) show up before risky behavior begins.
Loneliness, Boredom, Anger, Stress, Curiosity, Excitment, Arousal
This thinking error sounds like: "It wasn't a big deal."
What is Minimization?
This need is about feeling accepted or valued.
What is Belonging and Connection?
This means telling a safe adult when urges increase.
What is Disclosure?
This step happens when you first notice warning signs and admit something might be off.
What is recognizing risk?
This is when someone starts isolating from safe people.
Withdrawal
This sounds like: "They wanted it."
What is Victim Blaming?
This need involves feeling capeable or respected?
What is Competence and Self-worth?
This involves respecting another person’s comfort, age, and consent before any sexual behavior.
What are sexual boundaries?
This step means doing something right away to stop risk from getting worse.
What is taking action?
This warning sign involves thinking more about past behavior or risky fantasies.
What is returning fantasies?
This sounds like: "Everyone does stuff like this."
What is Justification?
This need is about emotional closeness without pressure.
What is Intimacy and Safe Connection?
This means noticing urges early and using a plan before behavior happens.
What is self-monitoring?
This step includes contacting supports.
What is reaching out?
This warning sign includes hiding things, lying, or trying not to get caught.
What is secrecy?
This belief says: "I couldn't stop myself."
What is Responsibility-Avoiding Thinking?
This need includes learning how to manage attraction, urges, boundaries, and impulses in a respectful and consenual way.
What is Healthy Sexual Development?
Choosing to leave a situation where attraction or urges feel strong is an example of this skill.
What is sexual self-control?
This step is reviewing what worked or didn’t.
What is Reflection?
This warning sign happens when someone starts thinking rules don’t matter or that they won’t get caught.
What is risky thinking?
This is when you pretend that you don't know the answer that other people need ot want. You use this thinking error and behavior to avoid telling the truth or to avoid sharing information about which you are embarassed or ashamed.
What is Avoidance or "I don't know?"
When someone looks for attention, comfort, or closeness in unsafe ways, it might mean that this need isn't being met.
What is Emotional Needs?
This is an example of handling sexual feelings in a private, safe, and legal way.
What is Masturbation?
This step helps prevent future risk.
What is relapse prevention planning?