Skills Streaming
Name 1 of the 4 skills we learned.
1. Asking for Help
2. Knowing Your Feelings
3. Understanding the Feelings of Others
4. Using Self-Control
What are 2 types of consequences?
1. Short-Term/Long-Term
What are the ABC's of anger?
A= _________________
B= _________________
C= _________________
A= Antecedent
B= Behavior
C= Consequence
What are the 3 types of anger reducers?
1. Deep Breathing
2. Backwards Counting
3. Pleasant Imagery
What is empathy?
The ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
What is "Bubble Talk"?
Why do we use it?
The thoughts, feelings, and emotions we have going on inside our head. "Comic Strip Balloons"
To be aware of what we tell ourselves.
What is the difference between an internal and external consequence?
Internal: self-defeating thoughts, "I'm no good." "I messed up big this time." "My parents are never going to trust me again."
External: having to go back to court, being on supervision longer, paying restitution
What are 3 examples of other emotions that could replace anger?
Disappointed
Frustrated
Afraid
Concerned
Irritated
Confused
Physical signs that let you know you are angry are called: ________________.
Cues or Warning Signs
What is it helpful to use self-evaluation after handling a conflict?
It helps you assess how well you handled a conflict situation and how you might be able to handle it better next time.
Why is it important to ask for help?
Give an example of a time you asked for help.
It's important to ask for help so you understand and do something correctly.
Scenario: A couple of your classmates were spreading rumors about you at a party over the weekend. You are upset and are thinking about beating them up.
What would be a short and long-term consequence?
Short Term: Stood up for yourself, showed them who's "boss," felt good to punch them
Long-Term: Suspended from school, benched for a game, grounded by parents, another referral, etc.
What are 3 examples of Reminders?
"It's not worth it."
"Calm down."
"Take a deep breath."
"Relax."
Give an example of a time that you could use deep-breathing in school.
Before a test
Before giving a presentation
Asking a teacher/peer for help
When a friend upsets you
The two types of self-evaluation include:
1. Self-Rewarding
2. _____________________
Self-Coaching
Why is it important to know how to use self-control?
It's important to know how to use self-control so you are able to make good decisions when you are upset at someone/something. Self control keeps your anger "in check."
What is the difference between an external and internal trigger?
External Trigger= Events or situations that cause a person to get angry
Internal Trigger= Feelings, thoughts, or emotions that lead to psychological cues
____________ ___________ is another way of controlling anger in a conflict situation.
It helps reduce the likelihood of future consequences of current behavior.
Thinking Ahead
What are 3 cues going on in your body that let you know that you are getting upset?
Sweaty palms
Rapid heartbeat
Clenched Jaw/Fists
Red Face
Swearing/Yelling
What is the difference between self-rewarding and self-coaching?
Self-Rewarding is providing yourself with positive feedback on how you handled a conflict situation.
Self-Coaching helps you identify how you could handle a situation better the next time you are faced with it.
Anger is considered a ______________ emotion.
Secondary
_________________ are statements we tell ourselves that are used to help us make positive choices in pressure situations of all types.
Reminders
What are the benefits of Thinking Ahead?
Thinking Ahead helps you figure out what the C (consequence) might be before deciding what to do, B (behavior).
Name the first 5 parts of the Anger Control Chain in order.
1. Internal/External Triggers
2. Cues
3. Anger Reducers
4. Reminders
5. Thinking Ahead
1. What are some examples of self-rewarding statements?
2. What are some examples of self-coaching statements?
1. "I handled myself well." "That wasn't so bad." "It could have been a lot worse."
2. "Don't take it personally." "I'll get better as I practice." "Next time I need to take more deep breaths."