My rights
Respecting Differences
Teamwork
Using my voice
Relationships
100
Someone told you that they need to open your mail, because you could get a paper cut.
Let them know that it is your right to open your own mail and that you will be careful when opening the mail.
100
You just got new glasses and there is someone who is teasing you about them. This hurts your feelings. What could you say to tell them your feelings are hurt?
I feel upset when you're making fun of my glasses. I need you to stop. I do not like it when you make fun of my glasses. I really like them.
100
You are working in a group and one of the people in your group is not doing anything. What should you do?
give them a task to do, remind them that they need to participate, get help from the leader if they are still not doing their part
100
Someone at your day program is calling you names every day. This really hurts your feelings. What should you do?
Ignore what you can. Ask them to stop. Sit with friends so you have people around you who are being nice. Tell the person in charge. Look for someone to talk to about your concerns. Tell your team members.
100
Your best friend is starting to spend time with another peer instead of you. What should you do?
See if there are ways you can all be friends. Let your friend know you're missing time with them. Recognize that friendships change and it's okay to spend time with different people.
200
Someone tells you that you can't have your ipod to listen to music, because you got into a fight with your roommate yesterday. What would you do?
I can explain that music helps me to relax and I need it to remain calm. It's my ipod, so I have the right to have it anytime I want it
200
Your peers are playing soccer and they tell you that you can't play because you aren't good enough. How would you handle the situation?
You could go find something else to do. You could talk to them and let them know that you just want to try it out. Talk to them about about why you want to play and the importance of being a part of the group.
200
You are playing a game with some friends and you win. One of the players is really angry that you won and is not being a good sport about it. What should you do?
Watch your words to be sure you're not bragging. Remind them that we can always play another time and they could have the chance to win. Ignore them until they calm down. Remind them it's just a game.
200
Another person in your day program stole someone else's purse, and you know that is not allowed. They threaten to hurt you if you tell the person in charge. What should you do?
Tell the person in charge anyway - if someone is threatening you this isn't safe. You could always write a note to let the person in charge know if you're worried about the other student seeing you tell.
200
Your friend always wants to be the one who chooses what game you will play. This is starting to get frustrating to you. What should you do?
Ask if you can take turns deciding what to do. Use chance - coin toss, rock/paper/scissors Compromise and find a win/win solution Talk about it and let them know you're getting frustrated.
300
You found out there is a meeting about you, but you weren't invited to it. What should you do?
Ask the person who scheduled the meeting and ask why you weren't invited. Remind them, that you should be a part of making decisions about your life.
300
You just got a new haircut and it is very different from your original look. You're worried that someone might make fun of it. You walk into the Self Advocacy meeting and someone points at you. What should you do?
Use humor, ignore them, ask them to stop laughing. Tell them you wanted to try a new look.
300
You are working on a project with a partner and you both want to do the first part. What should you do?
Chance - rock/paper/scissors, flip a coin to decide Compromise - find a win/win solution Take turns
300
You see one of your friends being made fun of in the community by another person. What should you do?
Be a friend. Go up to your friend and make sure they're okay. Use humor or change the subject. Make sure you don't join in these behaviors.
300
Your best friend looks mad at you and is ignoring you but she hasn't told you why she's angry and you don't have a clue what is bothering her. What should you do?
When she looks like she's calmed down, talk about it and ask what's wrong. If she keeps giving you the silent treatment, then just find someone else to hangout with. Let her know you want to know what's wrong to try to fix it and that you're willing to talk about it with her when she's ready.
400
You want to become registered to vote in the next election, but you are told that you can't because you wouldn't understand how to do it. What would you do?
Tell them that it is you right to vote. Maybe sit down with them and ask them to explain the process and help you through it.
400
You asked your friend about her dad and she got very upset because she doesn't see her father anymore. You didn't mean to hurt her feelings but didn't realize that this might be a sensitive topic to her. What should you do?
Apologize to her, Talk it out and let her know you didn't mean to hurt her feelings. Let her know you are there for he if she wants to talk about it.
400
You are part of a reading circle group for a social group. When it is time to discuss the book that you are reading, another member keeps interrupting you and you are getting mad. What should you do?
Talk it out. Use an I message to let them know how you're feeling. "I'm feeling frustrated when you keep interrupting. I need you to let me have a chance to share my ideas too."
400
A "friend" of yours is constantly making fun of you in front of other people but is nice to you when you are both alone. You are confused and hurt by this friend's actions. What should you do?
Talk about it with the "friend." Let them know it's not okay for them to be so mean to you in front of others and that this is crossing the line. Decide if it's worth trying to be friends with someone who is treating you like that. Think about what a real friend would do.
400
You are in a relationship, but the person you have the relationship is telling you what you should do, where you should go and who you are allowed to hang out with. What should you do?
Have a conversation with them and discuss that you are someone that can make their own decisions. Respect each others opinions and talk about why they are doing that. If the other person is not willing to let you make your own decisions, the relationship may need a break.
500
You pick out what you want to wear for the day, someone tells you that doesn't match and you need to wear something different. What would you do?
You can ask them what would match, but also tell them that it is your choice if you wanted to wear something that may not match.
500
A new peer from another country has started coming to events, and you assumed he was from Mexico because he was Hispanic but he is really from El Salvador. This person was very offended. What should you do?
Apologize to him, talk it out and let him know you were not trying to be offensive, be more aware next time and not make the same quick judgments. Ask him about his culture and learn more about it.
500
You are playing a game that requires you to be divided up into teams of 2. You don't like the person you are teamed up with, but the person in charge said you have to work together. What should you do?
Stop and think about how that person would feel if you complained about having to work with them. Recognize that life isn't always fair and we have to work together sometimes. Ask them questions, get to know them, you might have something in common.
500
Someone started a rumor about you that was not true and very hurtful. You know who started it. What should you do?
After you've cooled off, talk to the person. Let them know how it made you feel and that this is not okay. Ask them how they can fix it - they need to take some responsibility and set the record straight. If it is damaging your reputation in any way or about something that might get you in trouble, then get help if you need it to stop the rumor from spreading.
500
Your only friend in the day program is hanging out during break time with someone that you don't like. You are getting frustrated by this. What should you do?
If they are your friend, then it's not fair to ask them to choose between you and the person you don't like. You need to take a break and think about it to find a win/win solution. Maybe if you give the other person a chance, you'll be able to make a new friend. You could talk to your friend about it but recognize that you may just need to give the other person a chance to get to know them too.