Show:
Communication
John Gottman
Development and Discipline
Feelings
Families
100
KIDS/TEENS: Can you think of some non-verbal messages that you send to others? How can you talk to others without using words?
What is tired, mad, frustrated, sad, happy, bored, etc. By using body language
100
John Gottman refers to CRITICISM, CONTEMPT, DEFENSIVENESS and STONEWALLING as what?
What is the Four Horseman of the Apocolypse.
100
True or False: If you are upset, USU advocates for you to use spanking discipline.
What is false.
100
TEENS/Kids: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another or to put yourself in someone else's shoes is called....
What is Empathy
100
ALL How many different types of families can you list? At least 3?
Crockpot Stepfamily Single parent family Pet family Multi-generational family Friend family Biological family Adopted family
200
TEENS: A message should be both S--- and --c-i--- in order for communication to be successful.
What is Sent and Received
200
How many principles does John Gottman have to make marriage work?
What is seven principles.
200
At this age friendships become very important and secret codes may be involved.
What is around 8 years of age.
200
Since 67% of disagreements are unsolvable it is important to at least help the other person feel what?
What is validated.
200
This is on average, how many years it takes for the families to transition into becoming a step family.
What is three years.
300
Name two "Soft Approaches" that one can use when communicating with another person
What is Describe my feelings - use "I statements" no labeling or name calling Apologize Kind words and a kind tone Complement before you offer a complaint Don't hold in your feelings and then explode - don't wait to bring things up.
300
When a relationship is in trouble, as long as they have _______ and __________ for one another, their relationship is salvageable.
What is fondness and admiration.
300
TEENS: What is: Giving someone the benefit of the doubt?
Not jumping to conclusions or assuming before we know the whole story.
300
TEENS/KIDS List 3 examples of change:
Move to new house, divorce, death, marriage, birth, etc.
300
KIDS: Most families in the US have the same last name.
What is False
400
TEENS: This 4 letter acronym is used to help remind someone the steps they take to calm down and be able to respond appropriately in a moment of conflict is called.....
What is What is ICED I- Identify the problem - name it - think about what is causing it C- Create positive alternatives/choices E- Evaluate the alternatives (compromise, using a mediator, talking calmly, taking turns, negotiating D- Decide on your course of action
400
Relationships that create ________ __________ through traditions, rituals, and an understanding of anothers perspective toward symbols, helps relationships stay connected through inevitable changes in life.
What is shared meaning.
400
The type of parenting that has high levels of love and discipline.
What is authoritative/democratic.
400
This statement is best used when stating one's feelings.
What is "I feel" statements.
400
ALL: The 3 types of conflict are: Conflicts over: R-------- N---- V----- and 1 example for each.
What is Resources- Shower Needs- Food Values- Beliefs
500
True or False: Having bad or negative feelings are not OK to have.
What is false.
500
John Gottman suggests that couples participate in his Five Magic Minutes/Five Magic Hours daily to keep the relationship healthy and connected. What are the five things that couples should do on a daily basis?
What is Parting - find out what the other has planned for the day. Reunion - spend 20 minutes a day to reconnect and talk about your day. Admiration and Appreciation - find time every single day to share genuine admiration and affection toward one another. Affection - kiss, hold, grab and touch each other while you are together! Be playful! Weekly date - take two hours a day to spend time together in a low pressure way.
500
This type of parenting where the parent feels they are giving high amounts of love and little consequences. This is also known as the best friend parenting.
What is permissive parenting.
500
TEENS: Name three reasons why it might be helpful to understand another persons point of view.
Be more understanding, tolerance, resolve problems
500
A type of family that may have individuals taking different amounts of time to warm up to the 'new' family structure.
What is a crock pot family.