definitions
when you tell yourself that you shouldn't be upset
shouldnt-ing
thinking something must be true because it feels like its true
emotional reasoning
The baseball player gets furious after the game because he struck out in the 9th inning even though he hit a home run in the 3rd inning which was the reason his team won the game.
mental filter
"She left my party early... that means she hates me!"
jumping-2-conclusions / mind reading
I can't do this...
I can't do this... yet!
Seeing the worst possible outcome in every situation
all-or-nothing thinking
blaming yourself for something that someone else did
personalization
When a friend leaves your party early, you feel that this is a sign that they don't like you.
jumping to conclusions, mind reading, or emotional reasoning
"I just know it's going to rain on vacation next week..."
fortune telling
if my bully is mean to me... then no one must like me
my bully is just one person and know of many people love and care about me
negative thoughts about things that might happen tomorrow
fortune telling
ignoring all the good things about a situation and only focusing on the bad things
mental filter
your friend misses the goal and your team lost the soccer game and you are mad because you think its all his fault
blaming
Ugh! I'm such a dork sometimes...
labeling
I shouldn't have lost!
Even the best must lose at some point... now I know what I can work on to improve, so this is actually a good thing!
believing you know what others ar thinking
mind reading
another way of describing all-or-nothing thinking
black and white thinking
thinking its your fault that you get bullied
personalization
"If one kid wants to bully me, then that must mean all the kids in the class don't like me!"
Overgeneralization / personalization
I just know it will rain on vacation...
No one really knows what the weather will be, and either way, I can think of many other things to do if it does rain.
calling yourself or someone else by a hurtful name
labeling
thinking that one bad situation means every situation will be bad
overgeneralization
Patrick lost the checkers game and starts to cry because he feels he'll never be good at anything.
all-or-nothing / emotional reasoning / mental filter / fortune telling
"the coach doesn't like me, that's why I don't get to play as much as my teammates..."
jumping - 2 - conclusions / mind reading
I'm a loser...
well thats not really true because I have won things before, so its impossible to ever call my self a loser : )