Self-Sabotage
The emotion that is most responsible for getting us ready for battle, bailing us out of a potentially harmful situation or hunkering down in self -protection.
What is Fear?
Four elements that fuel the conflict between going for what you want and being held back: these are the aspects of your personality that run your beliefs and behavior.
Automatic Negative Thoughts.
Mood or feeling states that are in response to significant internal or external events that result in physical or psychological changes which influence behavior.
What is Emotions?
Active process by which we monitor, judge and react to our own behavior; Requires that you identify your thoughts and feelings, recognize when things are amiss and make course corrections.
What is Self-Regulation?
Promotes feelings of happiness, pleasure and well-being. This makes us want to repeat the behavior in order to get that hit of positivity or feel good.
What is rewards?
How you define yourself, how much value we place on ourselves (self- worth, self- esteem), the view we have of ourselves (Self- image) and what you wish you were like ( ideal self).
What is Low or Shaky Self-Concept?
Assuming you know how others are thinking and feeling, particularly how they think and feel about you; Jump to conclusions
What is Mind Reading?
Very easy to believe the words we say to ourselves; Self- sabotage triggers only have the ability to impact your behavior if you believe them to be indisputably true or real.
What is Questioning triggers?
Something that pushes us toward achieving our goals. Energizing force that prompts you to action and is linked to what we choose to pursue and how we pursue it.
What is Motivation?
Motivates behavior towards goals we have been socially conditioned to value (money, high powered job, big house, nice car).
What is Secondary Rewards?
We adopt beliefs by learning or modeling those around us and also being told by others what to fear.
What is Internalized Beliefs?
tend to make broad general conclusions based on single piece of evidence; single mistake means you are not good at all; everything is now and will always be terrible and negative
What is Overgeneralizing or Catastrophizing?
Goal is to develop a less fear driven perspective so that your mind does not make that unproductive switch to prioritizing avoiding threat over attaining rewards.
What is Modifying your Thoughts?
Ability to resist short term temptation and delay gratification in order to meet long term goals that you have committed to
What is Willpower?
These that are necessary for survival such as food, water, or or sexual contact.
What is Primary Rewards?
We are creatures of habit; routines and familiarity comfort our minds.
What is Fear of Change or the Unknown?
Insist on not taking credit, refute compliments, turn around to compliment the person who complimented you instead; Struggle to look at the bright side of life; Cynical, see your situation and circumstances as having more challenges than successes, more problems than solutions
What is Discounting the Positive?
Sometimes the issue isn’t wayward thoughts but the POWER they exert over your feelings and behaviors.
What is de-emphasizing the impact of your thoughts?
Allows you to lay your goals and then take a frank look at what may keep you from getting there. The goal is to focus on what your life will be like when you achieve your goal and then contrast that with the obstacles that stand in the way.
What is Mental Contrasting?
Behaviors or thought patterns that hold you back and prevent you from doing what you want to do.
What is Self-Sabotage?
We have a better chance of survival; gives us a sense of relief and belief that we have some power over the good things that will happen to us as well as the ability to prevent potentially bad things that can befall us.
What is Excessive Need for Control?
Compare and contrast with others so we can understand our social place in the world; The more you compare yourself to others, the more likely it is that your self esteem hinges on how you stack up to your perceived competition.
What is Personalization?
Strategy used to lessen the impact of those difficult thoughts on your feelings and behaviors. Practice of observing and distancing from your mind
What is Cognitive Defusion?
Helps us to pinpoint your goal, solidifies your commitment to the goal and identifies the trouble spots that might get in the way of your goal achievement. Sets a specific road map on how to get to your desired destination.
What is Implementation Intention?