Parenting Principles
According to President Howard W. Hunter, how can a parent measure their parenting success?
"A successful parent is one who has loved, one who has sacrificed, and one who has cared for, taught, and ministered to the needs of a child. If you have done all of these and your child is still wayward or troublesome or worldly, it could well be that you are, nevertheless, a successful parent."
Is poor communication a symptom or a cause of family problems?
Both
According to Gordon B. Hinckley, what is the most precious asset of a couple?
Their children
Anger is a natural feeling, and we in the gospel are taught that we need to control it as best we can.
“The Lord expects us to make the choice not to become angry.
Nor can becoming angry be justified. In Matthew 5, verse 22, the Lord says, “But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment” (emphasis added). How interesting that the phrase “without a cause” is not found in the inspired Joseph Smith Translation (see Matt. 5:24), nor in the 3 Nephi 12:22 version. When the Lord eliminates the phrase “without a cause,” He leaves us without an excuse. “But this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away” (3 Ne. 11:30). We can “do away” with anger, for He has so taught and commanded us.” – Elder Lynn G. Robb
T or F
According to the gospel teachings, it is a parent's duty to teach children to obey the commandments of God and the rules of home and society.
T
T or F
Parents' only responsibility, according to the Family Proclamation, is to provide for the physical needs of their children
F
Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live.
Slow to condemn, forgiving, compassionate, considerate of his family, willing to return good for evil, loving of children, appreciation, eager to serve, willing to sacrifice
According to the material, all of these are ways to nurture children except:
•Teaching children the doctrine of salvation
•Fostering spiritual development
•Providing for physical needs
•Keeping children from hardships
•Speaking and listening in a Christlike manner
•Teaching appropriate behavior
•Imposing consequences for misbehavior
•Showing love, respect, and devotion
•Setting a proper example
•Teaching the value of work and providing work opportunities
•Teaching financial discipline and money management
•Providing fun and wholesome recreational activities
Keeping children from hardships
What is the most seductive of the negative emotions?
Anger
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Children should be allowed to have the choice about which chores they are most comfortable with doing.
F
It is important to give our children choices and scaffold them as they become more secure and confident in those tasks. However, it is not necessary to give children a choice in which chores they are given.
Name any one of the four parenting approaches and describe
Permissive, Authoritative, Uninvolved, Authoritarian
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According to Marvin J. Ashton, one of the attributes needed for communication in a family is talent
T
“Communications in the family will often be a sacrifice because we are expected to use our time, our means, our talent, and our patience to impart, share, and understand. Too often we use communication periods as occasions to tell, dictate, plead, or threaten.” – Marvin J. Ashton
empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, involving a deep emotional connection. Sympathy is expressing care and concern for someone's feelings without necessarily sharing those emotions yourself, focusing more on compassion and support.
In an encounter between two people, one who is aggressive and one who is passive, there is a percentage of who they are protecting or thinking about and others. What are each of those percentages?
Passive 0% others, 100% self
What are some of the beneficial attributes children develop as a result of doing household chores?
Time management skills
Work ethic
Confidence and competence
Lifelong responsibility
Accountability and consequences
According to the Family Proclamation to the World, name one of the principles successful marriages are based on.
Faith, Prayer, Repentance, Forgiveness, Respect, Love, Compassion, Work, Wholesome Recreational Activities
When practicing listening skills with children, what are the best type of questions to ask?
Open-ended questions that require them to expound
T or F
Feelings are a part of life and children need to learn to deal with troubling thoughts and feelings
T
When is the most likely time a parent will respond to a child in anger?
When the costs of their anger appears to be relatively low.
When teaching younger children and/or having them complete more complex tasks, what is the best way to teach them how to complete that task?
Teach simple actions that are stepping stones to more complex action
Name or describe any of the societal attitudes about children:
Innately Evil, Innately Good, Blank Slate, Biological, Constructivist
Sometimes, parents have unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and ideas that interfere with listening. Name one.
Feeling responsible to solve all their child’s problems
Feeling responsible to rear successful children rather than focusing on being a successful parent
Wanting to control their children
Being overly detached and permissive, allowing children a great amount of freedom without providing supervision, guidelines, and boundaries
Fearing failure and public humiliation
Believing they are always right
Needing to feel loved by children and fearing rejection by them
What is it called when we solve all of our children's problems?
Snowplow parenting or lawnmower parenting
Name any of the phases of the anger cycle
Pretends to be normal
Build up phase
Acting out phase
Downward spiral phase
In the lesson, a consequence was listed as a result of parents not disciplining their children. What was that consequence?
“If parents do not discipline their children and teach them to obey, society may discipline them in a way neither the parents nor the children will like. . . .”