Social Skills
These are the 4 steps of active listening
1. Look at the person
2. Think about what is said
3. Wait your turn
4. Say what you want
The skill defined as "what we say to ourselves in our heads"
Thinking
Stop & think involves paying attention to these three internal warning signs
1. Physical reactions
2. Risk thoughts
3. Risk feelings
The commonly used abbreviation for "Thinking for a Change"
T4C
Confident, frustrated, sad, or perplexed are examples of what?
Feelings
This skill helps you get the information you need while encouraging others to help you.
Asking questions
The 3 main steps of cognitive self-change
1. Pay attention to thinking
2. Recognize risk
3. Use new thinking
How do you break the conflict cycle?
By using your problem solving skills
The missing word in this statement, "I am my own (blank)"
Authority
The values and principles that we live by, defining what matter most to us.
Beliefs
An objective and non-threatening way to provide info to other about what they've said or done
Giving feedback
The structured, objective report used to observe your thoughts and feelings
Thinking report
1. Do it
2. Ask Questions
3. Decide what to do next
The number of parts to "Thinking for a Change"
3
This represents the things going on inside of us that others cannot see
the Iceberg Analogy
This skill involves tuning into physical sensations to name an emotion
Knowing your feelings
This type of thinking increases the chances of a person action in a way that makes trouble
Risk Thinking
This step involves listing possible actions
Brainstorming options
The last part of "Thinking for a Change"
Problem solving
What is a trigger?
A trigger is a stimulus (like a sound, smell, memory, or situation) that causes a strong, often intense, emotional or physical reaction
Step 4 of this skill requires you to "think about different ways to show you understand what someone else is feeling"
Understanding the feelings of others
This thinking error shifts blame to others to avoid responsibility
Blaming
The final step of problem solving
Evaluating (evaluate)
This is one principle that holds true throughout “By taking (blank) (blank) (blank) (blank) we can (blank) (blank) (blank) (blank) (blank).
By taking....charge of our thinking
we can.....take control of our lives
These are the names of each social skill taught in thinking for a change (there are 9)
1. Active listening
2. Asking questions
3. Giving feedback
4. Knowing your feelings
5. Understanding the feelings of others
6. Making a complaint
7. Apologizing
8. Responding to anger
9. Negotiating