You ask if there is room on an outing, Staff says"Sorry we are full! Want me to put you on the waitlist?"
“No, I guess it’s fine… I didn’t really want to go anyway.”
What is Passive Aggressive
“You never listen to me.”
Rewrite it assertively → “I feel unheard when I don’t get a chance to speak.”
Show how a passive person might respond to being interrupted.
EX:
[quietly] “Oh… never mind.” (pulls back, avoids eye contact, maybe looks down or stops talking altogether)
Could also act out awkwardly smiling and letting it go without saying anything.
You’re in class and someone keeps taking credit for your ideas.
→ How would you respond? What style would you want to use?
“I statements” belong to what style?
What is Assertive?
In group you were talking but a staff tries to move on to the next question... You loudly say “You always talk over me!”
What is Aggressive?
“Forget it, I’ll just do it myself.”
Rewrite it assertively → “I’d like help with this, can we divide it up?”
Show how someone assertive might ask for a raise or favor.
EX:
“I really appreciate this job and the work I do. I’d like to talk about a raise—I’ve taken on more responsibilities and feel like I’ve shown growth.”
OR
“Hey, would you be able to help me move this weekend? I totally understand if not, but I’d really appreciate your help.”
A friend is pressuring you to do something you’re uncomfortable with.
→ What communication style helps set boundaries best?
“Whatever.” usually shows what style(s)?
What is Passive or Passive Aggressive?
You and your friends are making plans and last them you felt like you were left out so this time you let them know “I feel frustrated when I’m not included. Can we find a way to loop me in?”
What is Assertive?
“I’m not mad. It’s fine.” (when it’s NOT fine)
Rewrite it assertively → “Actually, I am upset. Can we talk about it?”
Act out an aggressive response to someone being late.
“Wow, look who finally decided to show up! You seriously can’t respect anyone’s time but your own?” (sarcastic tone, raised voice, maybe standing over someone or rolling eyes)
You feel hurt by something a friend said in a group chat.
→ What’s a healthy way to express this?
“You’re so sensitive.” is often used in what kind of communication?
What is Aggreesive?
You are deciding as a group a country to explore in Around the World and you wanted Germany but another member wanted Spain, you roll your eyes and say “Sure… whatever makes YOU happy 🙄”
What is passive-aggressive?
“Wow, thanks for inviting everyone but me.”
Rewrite it assertively → “I felt left out not being invited. Was there a reason I wasn’t included?”
You didn’t get picked for a game or event — show a passive-aggressive response.
You didn’t get picked for a game or event — show a passive-aggressive response.
Someone you care about keeps brushing off your feelings.
→ What would you say using an assertive style?
Making their feeling seem less of a big deal is often a big part of what style?
What is passive?
You are in group and someone said something that made you feel uncomfy. So you decide to keep staying silent and end up leaving group due to the comment.
What is Passive?
"You are wrong, I can't believe you think that!"
Rewrite it assertively → “I see things differently, can we talk this through?”
One person roleplays aggressive, one assertive — third person tells the difference.
Aggressive Player:
“You never listen! I’m tired of having to repeat myself—just get it right for once!”
(Tone: loud, attacking, blaming)
Assertive Player:
“I feel frustrated when I’m not heard. Can we try to focus and work together better next time?”
(Tone: calm but firm, uses “I” statement)
You want to apologize, but also stand up for yourself.
→ How do you say “I’m sorry” without being overly passive?
Sarcasm is seen most in what styles?
What is Aggressive and Passive Aggressive?