Teasing vs. Bullying
Used as a way of fitting in or when talking with other friends and everyone is involved.
Teasing
What can you do to get a person to stop teasing you?
Stay calm, Tell an adult, use an "I" statement, walk away/ignore
A scenario in which a new kid in your class walks into the crowded cafeteria and looks around. He seems unsure about where to sit. You don't know him very well...but there is a seat open at the table where you and our friends sit.
Invite the new student to join you
How many steps are there to resolve a conflict?
5
When resolving conflict, how many people should talk at one time?
1; Bonus point: what should the other person be doing?
When people are making fun of characteristics that are out of that person's control.
Bullying
What kind of voice should you use when giving an "I" statement?
Calm, confident
A scenario in which a student leaves the classroom to get a drink, another student puts a tack on her seat. Several kids see that happen, including you. Some kids are laughing. The student is to return any moment.
Tell the student who put the tack on the seat to remove it.
Remove the tack yourself
Warn the student returning to her seat about the tack
Tell an adult
What should you do if you are wrong is a conflict?
Apologize Bonus points: Why?
During conflict resolution, what should you do if you experience difficulty making progress?
take a time out; pause
Done purposefully with the intent to make fun of, embarrass or exclude others.
Bullying
What is an "I" statement?
A statement that tells the other person exactly how their actions are making you feel.
What does "conflict" mean?
When two people want different things, can't agree on something, two people are arguing?
What behaviors should NOT occur when trying to resolve a conflict?
Name calling, hurtful personal attacks or profanity
A classmate calls you an unkind word one time
Teasing Bonus Points: What kind?
How could you use an "I" statement to tell a person to stop following you because it is making you feel uncomfortable?
"I feel uncomfortable because you are following me. please stop."
You are on the playground and see an older student push a smaller kid around. There are no teachers around. The older student is a lot bigger than you.
Get help- tell an adult
Band together with friends and confront the bully (assertively, not aggressively!)
What does it mean to resolve a conflict?
To come up with a way to stop arguing and/or a solution that makes people happy.
During conflict resolution, it is important to stay in control of your own _______ and __________.
Emotions and behaviors
What is the difference between teasing and bullying?
1 minute to write down your answer
Teasing is when both people are joking and neither gets their feelings hurt, and bullying is when it goes on more than once, it’s impactful and hurts someone, there’s a power imbalance, and it’s intentional (on purpose)
What is another scenario when you can use an "I" statement besides teasing and bullying?
Resolving conflicts Bonus points: Why would you use an "I" statement in a conflict?
One of your friends frequently spreads rumors about you, tells you that your clothes are ugly, and says she won't be your friend. You are confused by this behavior because you thought this girl was really your friend.
Tell your friend that her behavior is unkind
Ask your friend to stop
Stop being friends with this girls
Tell an adult
If two people can't solve the problem what technique should you use?
Ask a third person (adult) to help settle the argument, walk away and give each other time to think, realize that it takes two people to work together and sometime you may have to compromise.
Bonus points: what does it mean to compromise?
What is a win/ win situation?
1 minute to discuss and write it down
When both people are happy with the solution and both people get something they want.