Passive,Assertive,or aggressive
A student doesn’t agree with the group project plan but stays quiet and goes along with it even though it stresses them out
What is passive communication?
Instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” you say..
“I feel unheard when I try to share my ideas and they’re interrupted.”
A student calls you a nickname you don’t like. You say,
“Please call me by my real name.”
Your friend keeps copying your homework even after you’ve asked them not to. You say,
“I’m not comfortable sharing my work anymore.”
You tell a classmate, “I understand your idea, but I’d like to share my thoughts too so we can find a middle ground.”
What is assertive communication?
A classmate bumps into you in the hallway. You say,
“I felt frustrated when I was pushed because I was trying to get to class on time.”
You don’t understand an assignment, what should you do?
Email the teacher to ask for clarification.
Someone borrows your things without asking. You tell them,
“Please ask me before using my stuff next time.”
Someone yells at a teacher, slams their book down, and says, “This assignment is stupid and I’m not doing it!”
What is aggressive communication?
Someone forgets to include you in a group chat. You say,
“I feel hurt when I’m left out, because I want to be part of the team.”
You notice you're being left out of group decisions. What should you do and say?
You respectfully bring it up during the next meeting.
Use an I-statement to express your feelings
A classmate keeps pressuring you to join a club you’re not interested in. You say,
“Thanks for thinking of me, but that’s not something I want to do.”
You feel left out of a group chat, but instead of saying anything, you ignore your friends for a week
What is passive communication?
You want a classmate to stop copying your homework. You say,
“I feel uncomfortable when I’m asked to share answers because it puts me in a bad position.”
You’re uncomfortable with a joke your friend made. You say,
“That joke made me feel uncomfortable.”
You’re feeling overwhelmed with school and social plans, so you say
"I feel overwhelmed because I have a lot to do, I need to stay home and rest"
A student shouts over everyone in a group discussion to make sure their idea is chosen, refusing to compromise.
What is aggressive communication?
You feel overwhelmed because your friends change plans last minute, you say..
“I feel overwhelmed when plans change at the last minute because I need time to get ready.”
A coach tells you to play through an injury. You say,
“I want to help the team, but I need to sit out because I don’t feel physically safe.”
During a group project, you notice your ideas are constantly ignored. You speak up and say,
“I’d like a chance to share too.”