Support Friends
When someone is abused or sexually assaulted the usually tell ____________ first
a friend
At the end of the day you can only change ______ behavior and not your partners.
your
when someone acts jealous and tries to control who you spend time with and what you do, or constantly calls/texts or makes you feel like you have to respond at all times, or monitors you, your cell phone or social media, or accuses you of cheating
Possessive
unwanted contact through repeated calls, texts, snaps, emails, or other social media messages.
following you
damaging or stealing your property
examples of stalking
If the person you confide in questions your experience or doesn't believe, ___________________.
Find another adult to speak to
beginning from a place of concern,
avoiding judgement or lecturing
not being afraid to tell them you're worried
telling them no one deserves to be hurt
ways to start the conversation
lacking contact or emotional connection
wanting to be free
keeping secrets
one or both of you are irritable with the other
arguments where nothing gets solved
emotional, physical, or sexual abuse
signs you should break up
when someone intentionally keeps you away from friends, family, or other people, and makes you afraid to tell others
Isolation
Most people in stalking situations _________ each other.
Know
they may be an ex romantic partner, former friend, acquaintence or adult authority figure
Talking about your relationship might feel __________; preparing what you're going to say first can help.
difficult, embarassing etc.
Your friend may not recognize their experience as unhealthy or abusive or sexual assault. They might even be ________ or _________ to talk about it.
afraid, embarrased
If you don't feel ______, don't break up in person
Safe
It may seem mean to break up over the phone or by text, but it may be the safest way.
when someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success, or threatens to "out" you or share information with others to harm you.
Sabotage
Stalking is more than annoying, - it is serious and ________.
Illegal.
It often includes threats and violence.
While it can be hard to do, telling someone about what is happening is courageous and an act or _____ _____.
Self Love
"I'm here for you"
"i'm sorry this happened to you"
"No one deserves to be hurt"
"It's not your fault"
"I am worried about you"
examples of things to say
Avoid bringing up relationship issues on __________, which may end up complicating things and sharing too many details with a larger number of people
social media
when someone expresses really extreme feelings and behaviors that feel too heavy or too fast
overwhelm
a trusted adult, a counselor, teacher, mentor, or someone who works at an agency that helps people who experience dating violence or stalking
People who can help you
trust
Your friend may feel alone but they can speak anonymously over the phone. You can help them reach out to ___________.
crisis services, domestic violence resource centers, sexual assault services.
allow for additional examples
Listen to your instincts. If you feel afraid, you should have support from an _________ when you break up
adult
let your friends and parents know you are ending the relationship, especially if you think your partner will try to come to your house or other places you frequent to confront you when you are alone.
When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions or makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it's your job to keep them happy.
Manipulation
Consider your use of ______________. Learn more about privacy and location settings
Technology or social media
When someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared or intimidated, or destroys your things, or threatens to hurt you or actually hurts you
explosive behavior
abusive behavior