Boundaries
What is a Boundary
Limits and rules we set to define what is acceptable and unacceptable in our relationships, protecting our physical and psychological selves, and maintaining our well-being
Example of a Red Flag
Answer may vary
When you feel really sad or angry, what do you do to let those feelings out?
Answers may vary; is that a healthy or unhealthy way to express your feelings?
Myth or Fact
Only women get abused
Myth
What is the reason for a safety plan?
To control or manage identified danger threats immediately
What are the three styles of boundaries?
Porous/weak, Healthy, Rigid
Example of a green flag
Name at least 2 activities you can engage in for at least 20 minutes to distract yourself.
- Watching TV
- Listening to soothing or my favorite kind of music
- Reading a book
- Playing a game
Myth or Fact
Abusers are only someone you are dating/married to
Myth
Anyone can be an abuser if you have a relationship with them. That includes significant others, family members, friends, etc.
A way to protect who can know where you are based off your phone
Turning off you location sharing with those who might misuse the information
List all the types of boundaries you know
Physical, Emotional, Time, Material/money, Sexual, Intellectual
After spending time with them, do you generally feel energized and happy, or drained and anxious?
Energized and Happy- Green Flag
Drained and Anxious- Red Flag
Name 2 activities that involve paper and at least one writing utensil that can be used for coping
Drawing
journaling
doodling
coloring
Three main reasons someone might stay in a Domestic Violence relationship are
Because they love the person doing the harm
To keep family together, support their children
Financial needs
Fact
Group of people whom you trust to help and care for you
Support system
How would you communicate a boundary about this situation.. "A friend asks you out on a date. You’re not interested in being more than friends. You want to communicate this clearly, but gently."
Answers may vary
Is it okay to keep some things private (like passwords or journal entries) in your relationship?
Answers may vary
True or False? Drinking cold water, eating something sour, doing exercise, and taking medication as prescribed are all coping activities
True
*BONUS: Name some unhealthy coping strategies.
Domestic Violence only included physical violence/ abuse
Myth
It can include physical, emotional, financial, psychological etc.
A special word that only specific people know that act as a signal to secretly let others know you need help.
code word
How would you communicate a boundary about this situation.. "You invited a friend over for the evening, but now it’s getting late. You’d like to get ready for bed, so you need to tell your friend that it’s time to go."
Answers may vary
Red or Green Flag; Wanting to spend some time together and wanting to spend time with friends/family
Green Flag
Name something you can say to yourself (or out loud) when you are beginning to struggle
- I can do this.
- Remember your coping skills.
- Breathe.
- I am safe and supported.
- I don't have to act on my thoughts
Every 20 minutes someone is the victim of Domestic Violence
Fact
A place you can go in your home to feel safe
Wherever you feel safe and are away from things that could be dangerous like the living room and kitchen