Starting Out
Humor
Group Conversations
Disagreements
Dating
100
What are friendships based off of?
COMMON INTERESTS!
100
What is something that can go wrong in using humor?
Inappropriate joke, wrong setting, wrong audience, demonstrates a lack of judgment, people may reject other attempts at friendships.
100
What should groups of people get together based on?
Common interests!
100
Does a disagreement mean the end of a friendship?
No! Unless disagreements are frequent and explosive. Disagreements between friends should never include violence or threats.
100
Where can you find a romantic interest?
Online dating (with safety precautions), mutual friends, clubs, events, classes, parties, libraries, book stores, sports teams, volunteering, etc.
200
What is one of our PEERS expectations?
Wait your turn, urgent things in chat, keep it PG, don't yuck my yum, advocate for yourself, be open-minded, step up/step down
200
What are types of jokes we should avoid with new people?
Insult jokes, inside jokes, dirty jokes, repeating the same joke.
200
What are the three ways of assessing interest in a conversation?
Eye contact, body language, and verbal signs.
200
What is the first step to responding to a disagreement?
Keep your cool!
200
What are some ways of flirting?
Compliments about their personality, not too many physical compliments (keep it from the neck up).
300
What are some common conversational topics when meeting someone?
Hobbies, movies, tv shows, school, classes, vacation, etc.
300
What is a courtesy laugh and why is it important?
To show understanding of a joke, provide positive humor feedback to our friends.
300
What are examples of positive interest in a group conversation?
Looking at you when you talk, smiling, opening up the circle, moving toward you, talking with you, asking questions, building on what you said.
300
What kind of statements do we use to be heard and avoid blaming the other person?
"I" statements
300
What are details we need for a date?
Where it's happening, When it's happening, What the date activity will be, How do you get there?
400
DOUBLE JEOPARDY!!! CONGRATS!
What conversational rule is this guy forgetting?
Don't be an interviewer!
400
What are the different types of humor feedback?
1) No laughter
2) Courtesy laugh
3) Laughing at you
4) Laughing with you
400
Why is it important to have groups around us?
Having a community, group belonging, sometimes helps protects from being targeted by bullies.
400
How do we know if an action is bullying?
It happens often, the intention and impact is to hurt others, there is a power imbalance.
400
What are some things to do before a date?
Doing an internet search on your date (you don't need to share this on the date), checking in with friends, checking interest from potential date, finding a good time and privacy to ask, preparing for rejection.
500
What are the 3 main rules for trading information?
1) Avoid being a conversational hog
2) Avoid being an interviewer
3) Avoid being too personal too fast
500
DOUBLE JEOPARDY!
What humor feedback do you see?
No laughter (yikes)
500
What do you need to do to prepare for a group get-together?
Plan for who, what, where, when, how.
Invitations should include a list of people (who), where to meet, when it starts and ends, and activities (what).
500
What do we do if we are in a PHYSICAL bullying situation?
Avoid the bully, plan your route around them, find a trusted group, avoid drawing attention to yourself, tell someone trusted when out of sight of bully.
DO NOT use teasing tactics with a bully.
500
What are some things we can do to stay safe on a date?
Have your own transportation there, avoid having first date in someone's home, do not leave your drink unattended, have a trusted friend/family know where and when date is (Location Share if needed).
600
Choose Sam or Ileana. Practice starting an in-person conversation with a new person.
1) Casually look over
2) Use a prop
3) Trade information to see if there are common interest (comment, compliment, question)
4) Interest?
5) Introduce if applicable
600
Describe your type of sense of humor. What was an example of a joke that was received with good humor feedback?
600
Sam and Ileana will be in a group conversation. Practice exiting a conversation after you have been rejected.
1) Stay cool
2) Look away (or at phone)
3) Brief reason for leaving
4) Quick bye
600
Practice teasing responses with Sam or Ileana.
600
Dos and Don'ts in Dating (Give me at least 3)
Dos: Pay attention to your date, express interest, offer to pay (twice before accepting their pay), be polite, ask permission before touching, follow up after the date, accept if they do not share interest.
Don'ts: Flirt with others, be on the phone a lot, talk about exes, share too much information, ask too personal questions, pressure others to committing, start policing what they say or did.