Boundaries
True or False: A boundary can be: "Hey, I appreciate you trying to help and telling me that someone is talking about me. Please don't tell me anymore about others talking about me because I have not heard them say anything to me directly and I don't care. Thank you and please respect that".
TRUE: used calm voice, made eye contact, was direct/specific with getting your boundary across.
Is it ok to be playing around while someone is trying to talk to you?
answer must have some skills learned in group
What is body language?
different examples can include:
-rolling eyes
-huffing and puffing
-no eye contact
-pointing fingers
- shrugging shoulders
What do you do: Someone comes and pulls your hair as a way to play around, but you are starting to not like it. How can you tell that person to stop playing around like that with you?
answer must include skills learned in group
How are you going to apply all the skills learned during the winter break?
Answer must include skills learned and please give examples.
True or false: a boundary can be "I don't want you to be friend's with that person"
False
True or false: Is it ok to share with others what is said in group?
False, it is NOT ok to share anything outside of this room about others.
True or False: You need to raise your voice to win an argument
FALSE, the more you raise the voice, the more problematic a situation can get. When you notice yourself raising your voice, step away from the situation, cool down, and come back when ready to talk with a calm and respectful voice.
What do you do: Someone keeps telling you to hang out with them, but you want to hang out with someone else
answer can vary as long as you use healthy skills learned in group
Why is it hard to use healthy communication skills?
answer can vary depending on own personal experiences
Why is it important to have boundaries?
There can be different answers to the question as long as you state the importance of boundaries.
Why is it important to give people space to cool down?
answer must reflect skills learned in group
What do you do if you notice yourself becoming extremely mad/upset and don't want to talk to anyone? (give me a few steps you can do)
Tell the person you want to be left alone
step away from situation
take a few deep breaths
go to a safe place to take your time to cool down
come back to the conversation when ready
What do you do: Someone comes to you to tell you that someone else is talking about you.
answer must utilize healthy skills learned in group
What are at least two things that you learned in group about healthy communication skills?
no wrong answer as long as you share 2 skills learned
Share one boundary of yours?
the points will depend on your answer!
What is being Respectful?
Avoid yelling, no using put-downs, or giving the silent treatment. Not talking over each other.
What are healthy skills to keep in mind when communicating with others?
eye contact
listen
stay calm
be clear/specific
What do you do: Someone keeps getting close to you and you keep backing up but they still keep getting close to you...
Can we expect others to change or do what we want them to do? Why?
No. We are only in control of our self and we can make choices and decisions for our own self. Everyone makes there own choice and no one can't control that.
Name at least 2 types of boundaries (we went over 5) If you can remember all 5 then you get extra 200 points.
Physical
Emotional
Material
Intellectual
Time
Define Confidentiality
-Everything we talk about in groups is private and it stays in groups.
-Privacy
-“What is discussed in the class stays in the class. Information about other people in the group may be private and should be respected”
Define 2 types of tone of voice
Aggressive
Calm/Assertive
What do you do: Someone grabs your color pencils without asking and don't give them back.
Your answer must use healthy communication skills learned in group
Who are we in control of?
Our self