Coping Skills
What is a coping skill?
What is self-talk?
The thoughts you have about yourself.
List one thing you can control
Words, actions, and reactions to feelings
What is a small (pebble) problem? Give an example
A problem you can solve on your own
Tell me a time this week that you felt happy
Shares story about feeling happy
What coping skill involves counting?
Counting backwards
Change this thought to be more positive: I am a bad kid.
I made an unhelpful choice, but I will do better next time.
List one thing you cannot control
What is a medium (rock) problem? Give an example
A problem you need some support solving
Tell me about a time this week when you felt sad
Shares a story
Tell me a time you used a coping skill this month
Share any story of a time you used a coping skill this month
You miss a shot in basketball and think to yourself, "dang, I will get it next time!" Is this negative, neutral, or positive?
positive
True or False: You can control other people's bodies
False!
What is a big (boulder) problem? Give an example
An emergency that requires an adult
Tell me about a time this week that you felt defensive
Shares story
Who can you talk to when you need help calming down?
Trusted adult (mom, meemaw, dad, Brandon, school counselor, teacher, etc.)
Your mom sends you to your room for pushing Oliver. You think to yourself, "My mom NEVER understands me!" How can you change this to be more neutral or positive?
You and your sister are playing a card game. Your sister starts to show you her ballerina moves. You want her to stop so you two can return to your game. What can you control?
Your words: you can ask her to please stop and come back / you can tell her you are not going to play anymore if she keeps dancing
You are craving ice cream, and your mom tells you that you have to wait until the weekend to have some. What is the size of the problem?
Small (pebble)
How do you know you are feeling angry?
Describes body language that communicates anger
Show me three different breathing strategies
What is one example of you using neutral or positive self-talk this month?
Provides example
You are trying to focus on a math test, but the student next to you is popping their fidget very loudly. What can you control?
Your body: you can ask the teacher if you can move seats
Your words: you can tell the teacher you are distracted
You are sent to your room because you and your brother got into a yelling match. What is the size of the problem?
Small (pebble)
How do you know when you need to try a coping skill?
Shares tipping point for coping skill