Size of The Problem
What is a small (pebble) problem?
A problem that can be solved by yourself
True or False: I can control how other people treat me.
False - you cannot control other's words or actions
Show me your favorite coping skill
Demonstrates coping skill
What is self-talk?
If you could have a superpower, what would it be?
Choose superpower
Gives an example of a problem that one needs assistance solving.
Your mom tells you that you cannot have a sleepover this weekend. What can you control? A) Whether she changes her mind B) How you respond to her saying no C) How she will respond next weekend
B) How you respond to her saying no
True or False: breathing quickly helps people calm down.
False: breathing slowly helps people calm down
You lose your flag football game and think to yourself, "I will never get better." Is this positive, negative, or neutral self-talk?
Negative
Who is someone you can turn to when you're feeling angry?
Name a support person
Your brother says you can borrow his fidget, but then he changes his mind and takes it from your hands without asking. What is the size of the problem?
Small - this can be handled by accepting that he changed his mind and asking him to use his words next time.
Your sister agrees to play video games with you after you play house with her. When it's time to play video games, she changes her mind and continues to play house. What can you control?
Body, actions, words, boundaries...
In math class, you become frustrated because you don't understand the lesson. What coping skill is best to use in this moment? A) jumping jacks B) take a break by leaving class C) take a deep breath and ask for help D) grab a fidget and stop paying attention
C) take a deep breath and ask for help
Why is it helpful to change your self-talk from negative to positive?
The way you talk to yourself influences your mood. Negative self talk = bad mood / Positive self talk = happy mood
What is one song you can't help but dance to?
Name a song
Your sister scrapes her knee during basketball and says she doesn't want to play anymore. What is the size of the problem?
Medium - you may need to get an adult to help her take care of her injury.
On field day, you teach students how to play a game, and one of the students starts to play unfairly. What can you not control? A) Words: reminding them how to play B) Reaction: You take a deep breath and remain calm C) Their body: you grab them to show them how to play
C) Their body
Name a coping skill that involves your imagination
Imagine blowing steam on hot chocolate, imagine going to your happy place, etc.
Give me an example of a time when you spoke to yourself kindly?
Provides example
If you were asked to live on Mars for a year, would you?
Answer
Give me an example of a big (mountain) problem and how you would handle it.
Gives an example of an emergency problem and a solution.
Tell me a story about a time this week when you let go of what you could not control
Tells a story about accepting what one cannot control
Name a coping skill that involves your body
Wall push ups, jumping jacks, muscle squeezes, deep breath, etc.
Your mom tells you to go to your room to cool down. You think to yourself, "she thinks I am bad." What is a more realistic thought?
"I made a mistake."
"I am taking a break."
"She is helping me calm down."
What is one thing you will always remember from your time in therapy?
Names a moment, strategy, memory, skill, etc.