Boundaries
When Dog Man says “No” to a bad guy who wants to take something that’s not his, he’s setting this.
What is a boundary?
What should you do if the bad guy still takes it?
I am going to get hurt, they are going to think differently about me, this will change everything for the worse. What am I?
What is Storming? (catastrophizing)
How would you challenge this brain bully?
When Dog Man feels upset, taking deep breaths is a way to do this and feel calmer. What coping type is this?
(Distraction, grounding, emotional release, thought challenging)
What is grounding?
What are ways that you ground?
This part of the CBT triangle includes what you tell yourself in your head, like “I’m not good enough.”
What are thoughts?
What brain bully could this be? How would you challenge it?
Dog Man shows that heroes don’t have to be perfect, just this.
What is brave and kind?
In what ways are you brave and kind?
Saying “I don’t like it when you yell at me” is an example of this kind of healthy boundary.
What is a communication boundary (or emotional boundary)?
When Petey sees Li’l Petey sad and thinks, “It’s all my fault,” even though Li’l Petey just had a bad day at school, he’s showing this brain bully.
What is personals (personalization)
Why is this brain bully false?
What are the cons of always using the distraction coping skill?
It is not a skill that can be used for long periods of time and doesn't resolve any issues
MY name is Petey the Cat, I like to ignore my feelings about past mistakes and pretends everything is fine. What type of negative emotional coping strategy am I using?
What is emotion avoidance?
What are the consequences of this?
Lil’ Petey believes you should talk to yourself like you would talk to this person.
Who is your best friend?
How do you talk to your best friend? Do you talk to yourself the same way?
True or False: You are allowed to say no to an adult if they are breaking physical boundaries?
True.
Pt2: What should you do when this happens?
Petey feels guilty about his past and believes he’ll never be good, even when he’s trying to do better. He’s showing what brain bully?
emotional reasoning
How would you challenge this brain bully?
What does the coping process include?
Deescalate: picking a sill that will help your body calm down
Secure: collaborating with a safe person to increase physical, mental, and emotional security
Choose new path: engaging with healthy behaviors that will continue to support the use of coping skills
This emotion might make Dog Man want to run away from a scary situation instead of facing it.
What is fear?
Is fear a good or bad emotion? How do you think you could challenge it?
When you feel like you're not good enough, Lil’ Petey would remind you to look at these instead of your flaws.
What are your strengths or good choices?
What are some of your strengths and good choices?
When Dog Man says, “I need some quiet time to focus,” he’s setting this healthy boundary to protect his mental space.
What is a psychical or emotional boundary?
Li'l Petey sees Petey looking sad and thinks, “It’s because of something I did,” without asking why. He’s listening to what brain bully?
What is personalization?
How can he challenge this brain bully?
When Dog Man focuses on the sounds around him, like birds chirping, he’s using this grounding technique.
What is mindfulness (or grounding)?
When you're nervous and start avoiding people, you're acting out this part of the CBT triangle.
What are behaviors?
What are healthier behaviors that you can engage with instead?
Petey’s journey from villain to dad shows that self-esteem can grow when we do this.
What is change or take responsibility?
How do you take responsibility?
Li’l Petey lets a friend know when jokes go too far and hurt his feelings. This is an example of setting this kind of boundary.
What is an emotional boundary?
“I feel worthless, so I must be worthless,” What brain bully is this?
What is feelings? (emotional reasoning)
What about this brain bully is wrong?
If Li’l Petey draws pictures to express his feelings or cries he’s using type of skill to cope.
Emotional expression
What is a time that you recently expressed your emotions to a safe person?
When Dog Man thinks, “I can’t do anything right,” this core belief can cause him to feel this emotion.
What is sadness or anger? - Bonus: Why?
Finish this Lil’ Petey sentence: “Even when I feel like a zero, I remind myself that I am...”
What is “worth it / enough / special / loved”?
What makes you
worth it -
enough -
Special -
loved -