Pause Before You Act
What is one thing you can do before reacting when you're mad?
Take a deep breath, pause, count to 5, or think before speaking.
Your parent tells you to clean your room but you don't want to. What is a respectful response?
“Okay,” “Can I finish this first?” or starting the task without arguing.
Name one body signal that tells you you’re getting frustrated.
Fast heartbeat, tight fists, hot face, tense body.
What does good listening look like?
Looking at the person, staying quiet, paying attention, responding respectfully.
Name one coping skill that helps you calm down.
Deep breathing, counting, taking a break, positive self-talk.
True or False: When we react too quickly, we sometimes make choices we regret.
True
You are playing a game and your parent tells you to turn it off. What could you do that shows self-control?
Pause the game, say okay, ask politely if you can finish the level.
What might it mean if your heart is beating fast and your body feels tight?
You are starting to feel angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed.
True or False: Listening means waiting quietly while someone talks instead of interrupting.
True.
Question: What is a “pause strategy”?
Something you do to stop and think before reacting (breathing, counting, stepping away).
Name two things you can do to help yourself pause before reacting.
Deep breathing, counting, walking away, thinking about consequences, asking for a minute.
You feel like something your parent asked you to do is unfair. What is a respectful way to respond?
“Can we talk about it?” “I feel like that’s unfair because…” or doing the task first and discussing later.
What is one thing you can do when your body starts feeling really tense or upset?
Take deep breaths, stretch, pause, take a break, or walk away.
Name two ways you can show someone you heard them.
Repeat what they said, say “okay,” start the task, or ask a calm question.
What is something you could say when you are upset but want to stay respectful?
“I need a minute,” “Can we talk about this?” “I feel frustrated.”
You’re about to yell at someone. Name a thought you can tell yourself to help pause.
“I can calm down first,” “I can handle this,” or “I don’t have to react right now.”
You feel like ignoring your parent’s directions would be easier. What’s a better choice?
Listen, ask questions, or explain politely why you might need a minute.
Your shoulders feel tight and jaw clenched. What could that tell you about your feelings?
You are tense, stressed, or getting ready to react.
Your parent is giving instructions but you feel distracted. What can you do to improve listening?
Look at them, put away distractions, repeat the direction, or ask a clarifying question.
Your feelings are starting to take over, and you want to yell. Name a coping skill you could do before speaking.
Breathe, count to 10, walk away, or squeeze a stress ball.