"WOW! You look..."
In Class
At Lunch
Party Time!
What Else Can I Say?
100

Ms. J just got a new haircut 

"Her hair looks terrible!"

THINK IT.  Keep this thought to yourself.  If you say it out loud, it may hurt Ms. J's feelings.

100

"I am SO bored!"

THINK IT!  Ask your teacher for a quick break if you need it, then refocus. 

100

"Can I sit with you?"

SAY IT! Be brave and try to meet new friends. 

100

When opening a birthday present:

"I don't like this present!"

THINK IT!  It may make someone feel sad when they were excited to give you a present.  Discuss the situation with your family. You may be able to ask for a receipt later. 

100

In the middle of a conversation:

"I am falling asleep right now!"

THINK IT. You can try saying, "I am very tired. I might need a break to help energize."

200

Your friend got a new pair of glasses.

"You look weird with your glasses on!"

THINK IT!  Try to point out something positive about them if you are asked directly.

200

"I don't understand this question.  I need help."

SAY IT!  It is always important to ask for help.

200

"Wow your lunch looks good. Can I have some?"

THINK IT!  It is usually not polite to ask for others food, unless you are talking to a close friend or forgot your lunch.

200

"I don't want that person at my party."

THINK IT. Explain to an adult why you may not want that person at your party, but never say that to someone.

200

You are with a friend. "Will you play this game with me?"

SAY IT! It's good to ask for what we want. It's also important to remember to play their games and take turns. 

300

Mr. R just came back from the dentist.

"Mr. R, you have a dazzling smile!"

SAY IT!  Compliments make people feel happy and it is a kind thing to do. 

300

"This is way too hard for me!"

SAY IT!  Let your teacher know what you are having problems with.  

300

"This food is so gross!"

THINK IT!  It is not polite to say this out loud.  It might hurt someone's feelings. 

300

"I have been wanting this! Thank you so much!"

SAY IT! This will make someone feel appreciated.

300

You are at the movies and someone sits down next to you. "You can't sit here!"

THINK IT! If you are saving the seat, you can try: "I am waiting for someone. You may sit in this other seat next to me."

400

Your friend needs to blow their nose.

"You have a booger in your nose!"

THINK IT ... unless you are a close friend and you are alone.  You might be able to tell them quietly. "You have something here, do you want a tissue?"

400

"I never win at this game!"  

THINK IT!  People may think you are being a poor sport.  Congratulate them and suggest a different game next time. 

400

"I am allergic to eggs.  Does this have eggs in it?"

SAY IT! Allergies can be a serious health issue.  You must make people aware of what food you cannot have and make sure you don't eat anything you are allergic to!

400

When standing at school with many others around, you say: "My party is going to be so fun!"

THINK IT!  Unless you have invited everyone, some people may be sad if they hear this and they are not invited. 

400
You are not feeling well. "I feel like I might be sick."

SAY IT! It's always important to advocate for your needs.

500

You tell your friend 

"your shirt is ugly"

THINK IT! 

500

"I can't believe you don't know the answer!"

THINK IT. We always want to be respectful. 

500

"Pizza again?  I just had this for lunch!"

THINK IT. You may ask for something different and say it in a kind way.  Others may not know what you had for lunch. Always be kind. 

500

"I want lots of money, video games, and toys!"

THINK IT! Unless someone you know well asks you, keep it in your thought bubble.  

500

"What you said hurt my feelings."

SAY IT! It is important to communicate in a kind way to your friends.  They cannot read your thoughts.