Thinking Errors 1
I don't accept accept feedback from others.
I dont reveal my true thoughts and feelings.
CLOSED CHANNEL
When we try to make things seem smaller than they really are
Minimizing
You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”
Emotional Reasoning
Feeling awkward at a party leads to the conclusion: “I’m an awkward person."
Labeling
you can’t do this, you can’t do that, you can’t even try.
Powerlessness
When we believe we know what other people think or feel
Assuming
A thinking error used so that people won’t expect us to do what is required or expected. This attitude will ultimately lead to disappointment, failure, a loss of control, or a loss of freedom.
"I can’t" attitude
When a person does not think of how their actions influence others, except in the most obvious physical sense. The person has no concept of emotionally hurting others or causing great mental pain.
Lack of empathy/apathy
I know what is really going on, but I act as if I don't so I can avoid the situation at hand.
You must please or impress others to maintain your value as a person or to keep from being devalued as a person.
What is People Pleasing
I don't show care or concern for others. I fail to consider the rights & feelings of others
SELFISH
you must please or impress others to maintain your value as a person or to keep from being devalued as a person
people pleasing
A checkout clerk is rude to you and you believe that you must have done something to cause it, when you may not have done anything at all.
Personalization
I'm just going to pretend that is not true.
denial
You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
Disqualifying the Positives
“Pointing the finger” to find an excuse not to solve the problem
Blaming
Because you messed up, you stop and don't continue trying.
Giving up
there is never enough (fun, food, money, opportunities, etc.).
Scarcity mentality
I feel more important or deserving others even though I have done nothing to earn it.
Entitlement
What is Asking your self questions about the reality of the situation.
Fact Checking
A persons daughter hurts somebody because they are different. They think that "well if they weren't different then she wouldn't have hurt her!"
victimization
Karen thinks she doesn't have to pay for her groceries because she "already pays for them with her taxes.
Pride
Walking into a room and thinking everybody hates you.
Jumping to conclusions
When a person makes a judgment based on some information but disregards other information. Example: Someone attends a party and afterward focuses on the one awkward look directed her way and ignores the hours of smiles.
Mental filter
Making a broad rule based on a few limited occurrences. Example: believing that if one public speaking event went badly that all of them will.
Over Generalization