Thinking Errors 1
When we believe everything is only “good” or “bad”
Black or White Thinking
When we try to make a negative bigger, in effect, than what it is.
Magnification
You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”
Emotional Reasoning
Feeling awkward at a party leads to the conclusion: “I’m an awkward person."
Labeling
You've learned to believe that you can’t do this, you can’t do that, you can’t even try.
Learned Helplessness / Powerlessness
When we believe we know, for sure, what other people are feeling
Assuming (Jumping to Conclusions)
Assuming you know what's going to happen
Fortune Telling
When a person does not think of how their actions effects others.
Lack of empathy
I know what is really going on, but I act as if I don't so I can avoid having to make a hard choice.
What is avoidance
You must please or impress others to maintain your value as a person or to keep from being devalued as a person.
What is People Pleasing
When a person thinks that everything is “the end of the world”
Catastrophizing
you must please or impress others to maintain your value as a person or to keep from being devalued as a person
people pleasing
A checkout clerk is rude to you and you believe that you must have done something to cause it, when you may not have done anything at all.
Personalization
I'm just going to pretend that is not true.
denial
You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
Minimizing the Positives
“Pointing the finger” to find an excuse not to solve the problem.
/ Making someone feel guilty for making a choice you disagree with.
Blaming
Because you messed up, you stop and don't continue trying.
Giving up
Ex. I feel scared, so this person is scary.
Emotional Reasoning
I feel more important or deserving others even though I have done nothing to earn it.
Entitlement
What is Asking your self questions about the reality of the situation.
Fact Checking
"Put yourself in someone's shoes" and see things from their view.
You interact with them in a way to show that you care about their thoughts and feelings
Empathy
Assuming you know what someone is thinking
Mind Reading
Walking into a room and thinking everybody hates you.
Jumping to conclusions
When a person makes a judgment based on some information but disregards other information. Example: Someone attends a party and afterward focuses on the one awkward look directed her way and ignores the hours of smiles.
Mental filter
Making a broad rule based on a few limited occurrences. Example: believing that if one public speaking event went badly that all of them will.
Over Generalization