Name that Trap
"I missed one shot. I'm terrible at basketball."
Black-and-White Thinking
I made a mistake, I'm not good at this.
Give a more balanced thought
Everyone makes mistakes sometimes.
An emotion iceberg teaches us that:
A) Emotions don't matter
B) We only have one feeling at a time
C) There are often feelings hidden underneath what we show
C) There are often feelings hidden underneath what we show
A student says:
"Could you please stop? I don't like that."
What communication style is this?
Assertive
A healthy friend:
A) Respects your feelings
B) Controls who you talk to
C) Makes all your decisions
A) Respects your feelings
"My friend didn't text back. They must be mad at me."
Mind Reading
"I didn't get picked first, nobody likes me"
Give a more balanced thought
Being picked later doesn't mean I'm not good.
A student is yelling at their friend.
What emotion might be underneath the anger?
Hurt, embarrassment, disappointment, sadness (any)
A student says:
"Whatever. It doesn't matter."
Even though they are upset.
What communication style is this?
Passive
What is a personal boundary?
A limit that helps you feel safe, comfortable, and respected.
"I got one question wrong. I'm terrible at maths."
Black and white thinking
My friend didn't sit with me at lunch; they must be mad at me.
Give a more balanced thought
Friends can sit with different people sometimes.
True or False:
Anger is often called a "surface emotion."
True
A student says:
"Move! You're so annoying!"
What communication style is this?
Aggressive
True or False:
It's okay to say "no" to a friend
True
"I wasn't picked first. Nobody likes me."
Overgeneralising
I have to give a speech tomorrow in class, I'm going to mess up and people will laugh at me.
Give a more balanced thought.
I might feel nervous, but I can prepare and do my best.
A student slams their book shut and walks away.
Name one emotion that might be hiding underneath.
Frustration, anxiety, embarrassment, sadness, stress
Which communication style usually respects both your rights and other people's rights?
Assertive
Name two signs of a healthy friendship.
Trust, kindness, respect, honesty, support, listening, etc.
"I forgot my homework. My whole day is ruined."
Catastrophising
Someone laughed after I answered a question, they must think I'm stupid.
Give a more balanced though.
They might not have been laughing at me.
Why is it helpful to think about the emotions underneath the iceberg?
It helps us understand ourselves and others better.
Assertive communication means expressing your thoughts and feelings __________.
Respectfully, clearly, honestly (any suitable answer)
Which response shows a healthy relationship?
A) "If you don't do what I want, I won't be your friend."
B) "I don't agree with you, but I respect your opinion."
C) "You have to hang out with me every lunch."
B) "I don't agree with you, but I respect your opinion."