Empathy, Respect, and Communication
What word means understanding how someone else is feeling?
Empathy
What are the three steps in the process for calming down?
Use a stop signal. Name your feeling. Calm down.
What is the first step in the problem solving process? Hint: The S step
Say the problem without blame
Your friend is sitting against the wall with his head down at recess. He seems really upset. What is something you could do or say to show that you care?
Ask him if he wants to play. Ask him if he needs help with anything. Tell him you're here for him if he wants to talk. Ask him what's wrong.
What word means repeatedly doing something mean to someone on purpose?
Bullying
What word means considering how someone else would want to be treated and then treating them that way?
Respect
Name three strategies that someone could use to calm down at home.
Drawing, coloring, listening to music, playing a game, taking a nap, eating a snack, going for a walk or other exercise, talking to a friend...
Give two examples of blaming words or phrases.
Examples: Always, never, because of you, you made me...
You're playing basketball at recess with a group of third graders. Someone bumps into you and you fall down. You don't know if it was on purpose or on accident. You are really angry. What would you do?
Stop. Name your feeling. Calm down. Then ask if they bumped you on purpose or on accident.
Maria often calls Andrew a jerk. It makes him upset every time. Sometimes when this happens, he calls her mean names. Is this bullying? Why or why not?
It is not bullying because it is two-sided or back-and-forth.
A fourth grader calls your friend mean names whenever they see each other. You want to tell them in an assertive way to stop. How would you do this?
Example: In a calm, firm, respectful way, say, "Please stop calling my friend mean names."
Name three strategies that you can use to calm down at school.
Breathing, counting, positive self-talk (or others)
What is the second step in the problem solving process? Hint: The T step
Think of solutions
You are nervous about a test that you are taking this week. What could you say to yourself to make you feel better and more confident?
Examples: I can do this. I'll do my best. I'll show what I know. It will be fine.
Mike pushed Ramon at recess because Ramon missed his shot in basketball and Mike was upset. Ramon is angry that Mike pushed him and wants to get revenge. What should Ramon do?
Stop. Name his feeling. Do something to calm down.
Talk to Mike in a calm way.
Tell an adult.
Do not get revenge. Otherwise, Ramon might be the one who gets in trouble, and Mike and Ramon might continue to have problems.
What is a compassionate thing that you could say to a friend who is feeling sick?
Example: I'm sorry you're not feeling well.
Your friend said he would play with you at recess. Instead, he and another student are playing together and said that you can't join. How would you stop, name your feeling, and calm down?
Example: Chill out. I feel jealous and angry. *Belly breathe*
What is the third step in the problem solving process? Hint: The E step
Explore consequences
You are so excited to use the new tennis equipment at recess. When you go outside, you see that two kids who have used them for the past two days are already using them. You have a problem. State the problem without placing blame.
We all want to use the tennis equipment but there not enough for everyone.
Ciara sits at the other end of the lunch table from most of her friends. She saw her friends looking over at her and talking at lunch, but she couldn't hear what they were saying. Ciara *knows* that they are saying mean things about her. What is Ciara doing?
Making an assumption or jumping to conclusions
What type of communication is used to get what you want or need in a calm, firm, respectful way?
Assertive
Give an example of a time when someone might feel a strong feeling and need to calm down.
What is the fourth step in the problem solving process? Hint: The P step
Pick the best solution
There is a new student in your class. She has been very quiet and shy the whole morning. You want to get to know her at recess. What would you say to her?
Ask her if she wants to play with you. Ask her questions about herself and what she likes to do. Give her a compliment.
How do you know if something is bullying instead of conflict or teasing?
It is repeated and one-sided