Thought Distortions 1
I never should have made that phone call.
I should be able to handle this problem.
Should statement.
I feel afraid, so there must be danger present. I feel hopeless, so the situation must be hopeless.
Emotional Reasoning.
True or False
a fearful adult is high on both anxiety about expressing their needs for support. They are also fearful of being vulnerable in attachment relationships?
True
What is the skill where you "do the opposite of what you feel"?
Opposite Action
Rephrase this negative thought:
I will never find a place to live.
It is going to be hard to find a place to live. I need to ask for help. I probably won't find the perfect place at first.
It's all my mom's fault. If she had been more loving when I was a child...
I know exactly what you mean.
Mind Reading
When this forms in the client/therapist relationship, there is an increased chance the client will recreate the type of attachment of their caregiver.
Transference
Accepting things for what they are even if you don't agree. Letting go of fighting reality and understanding there are some things we cannot change.
Radical Acceptance
Rephrase this negative thought:
It won't ever change, why even bother?
It is frustrating how hard it is to get where I want to go.
If it rains it's not safe to drive at all.
Kids grow up to either be good people or bad people.
All-or-nothing thinking.
Black or while thinking.
DAILY DOUBLE:
What is the difference between all or nothing thinking (black and white thinking) vs. overgeneralization?
1. All or nothing thinking: You look at things in absolute, black and white categories. 2. Overgeneralization: You view a negative event as a neverXending pattern of defeat.
What are the four forms of attachment created by Bowlby, Ainsworth, and Main
What is secure, insecure: avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized
Being aware of the present moment and focusing our attention on the here and now.
Mindfulness
Rephrase negative thought with magnification distortion: "I can't believe I forgot to turn in that report on time. My boss is going to be so mad and I'll probably get fired. My whole career is ruined."
"I made a mistake by forgetting to turn in that report on time. My boss might be disappointed, but it's not the end of my career. I can learn from this experience and make sure to prioritize my tasks better in the future."
If I plan for all negative outcomes, it will make it more likely a positive outcome will occur.
Magical thinking.
That might be an achievement for others, but it isn't an achievement for me.
When the complimented me, they didn't mean it.
Discounting the positive
Ways to build secure attachments
1. LEARNING TO LOVE OURSELVES
2. Working on our self-esteem
3. Learning to be assertive
4. Learning to resolve conflict
5. Learning to express emotional needs
6. Not manipulating other's interests
What is the skill "observing"?
Noticing your body sensations; paying attention; controlling your attention; practicing wordless watching
Rephrase this negative thought with minimization distortion: "I got a promotion at work, but it's probably just because the boss felt sorry for me. I'm not really that good at my job."
"I was able to achieve a promotion at work, which is a significant accomplishment. It's not just because the boss felt sorry for me, but rather because I have proven myself to be capable and competent in my job. I should be proud of my success and recognize my own strengths and abilities."
Nothing ever goes the way I want it to. Since I didn't get that job, I'll never get a job.
Overgeneralization.
I can't believe I forgot to turn in that report on time. My boss is going to be so mad and I'll probably get fired. My whole career is ruined.
Magnification / Catastrophizing
Who is the founder of Attachment Theory?
John Bowlby
When your emotions are in control; when they influence and control your thinking and behavior. What "mind" are you in?
What is the skill called where you change your thought pattern and thinking? (two words)
Cogntitive restructuring.