Feelings
Feelings are good or bad. True or false?
False. No feeling is bad to have.
True or False: Most of our communication of thoughts and feelings is with our words (verbal).
False. 70-93% of what we communicate is nonverbal.
"I failed the test. I am just going to keep failing my whole life."
"I failed this test, but I can do better next time. I can ask for help to learn how to study better."
The feeling of displeasure, being very irritated or annoyed.
Anger
Ignoring your feelings makes them go away. True or False?
False. Ignoring feelings only makes them grow more intense. Like a pressure valve, they will slowly seep out or explode in unintended and potentially harmful ways.
True or False: Other people can make me feel a certain way.
False. Our feelings come from our thoughts, so others do not have the power to make us feel bad unless we allow them to.
"My mother is frustrated with my behavior, but she always loves me. Part of her job is to help me see when behaviors are unexpected."
A feeling you have when you fear something bad will happen to you or someone else.
Scared or Afraid
Name 3 uncomfortable feelings
Examples may include: angry/mad, frustrated, annoyed, worried/anxious, stressed, sad, scared
True of False: Crying is a normal reaction to strong feelings.
Crying releases tension. Some scientists believe it releases stress hormones too, which is why we feel better after a good cry.
"This math is too hard. I'm not even going to try."
"This math is a real brain stretcher. Once I figure this out, I will be able to do so many other problems."
Feeling ashamed because of your actions.
Embarrassed
Why are feelings important?
They help us to understand and communicate our needs.
When your brain senses danger, what are the three "F" responses?
Fight, flight, or freeze
"That was so embarassing. I can't believe I said that."
"I am having a thought because I am embarrassed by what I said. Everyone says things they don't mean sometimes. I bet I won't even remember this next week."
A feeling you may have when you are constantly thinking about something and are unsure of what the outcome will be.
Worried or Anxious
Anxiety is never helpful. True or False
False. Anxiety can be helpful if it helps us come up with a plan. Anxiety without planning is not helpful.
How does a deep breath work to calm you down?
A long exhale calms the fight, flight, or freeze response and helps to restore a normal heart rate.
"They are whispering about me. I just know it!"
"They are whispering, but it might not be about me. I am going to assume they are not talking about me until I have evidence that they are."
Your parent doesn't show up when they said they would, you missed the winning soccer goal at the game, or you don't have enough money for a new game.
Disappointed