Thought or Feeling?
Lonely
Feeling. What is a thought you have when you feel lonely?
I have no friends, everyone hates me
Everyone feels this way sometimes. Maybe I can try making new friends and being a good friend to others.
What is your favorite color?
AWESOME! thats a great color!
A person you don't know comes to the door. What is your automatic thought?
What are some other possibilities?
You didn't finish your homework
Get a bad grade, get in trouble, stay in from recess
I'm so sad, how could this happen?
Thought. What is the feeling?
This homework is hard, I must be stupid
Try, this is hard but I can do hard things!
What's your favorite kind of ice cream?
Yum!
You make a bad grade on a test. What is your automatic thought.
Let's reframe it...
You offer to play your siblings favorite game with them even though you don't usually like it that much.
You may: have fun
your sibling may do the same for you
your sibling may feel happy
Or something else!
I'm going to hit someone in the face!
Thought. What feeling is behind the thought?
I've had a bad morning, I'm just going to give up
I know I can turn this day around - there's plenty of time for something good to happen today.
What's your favorite thing to do for fun?
That's awesome!
Someone makes fun of you at school.
Stand up for yourself using words (what would you say?)
Tell a teacher, parent or trusted adult
Talk to your friend about it and tell them how you feel
Any other ideas?
You could get in trouble too.
People may think you are also mean and may not want to be your friend.
Anything else?
Frustrated
Feeling. What would a thought be that goes with this feeling?
She looked at me with a mean face; she's so mean all of the time!
Maybe she wasn't looking at me and she was just thinking?
Maybe she is mean but there are nice people too in my class.
Maybe she's just having a hard day and she's not mean all of the time.
Would you rather be sticky for the rest of your life of itchy for the rest of your life?
Those both sound awful!
You wave and say hello to your friend down the hallway, but they don't wave or say hello back.
Maybe they didn't see/hear you. You could try walking up to them and saying hi again. Maybe they are having a bad day - you could go up to them and ask how they're doing.
You bottle up what you're feeling inside
Eventually, it gets too much, and it explodes, leaving an even bigger mess!
When was the last time you were embarrassed? Is embarrassment a thought or a feeling?
Thanks for sharing! You earn 500 points!
I don't like what my teacher is telling me to do. They're so mean!
Maybe it's not personal - could there be a reason they're telling me to do this? (to keep me safe, to help me learn, because they care)
If you could have a pet animal, what would you have and why?
Thats awesome; you earn 500 points!
You're not allowed to share food at camp, but your friend forgot their lunch! What do you do?
Offer to help your friend - maybe go to a camp counselor together, and ask if they can help. Is there extra food in the kitchen? Can you get special permission to give a snack to your friend that day?
Someone calls you a name at school and then you call them a name back or threaten them because they upset you.
You could get in trouble with the teacher or principal. You could get in an even bigger fight.