Getting Attention
True or False: Everybody needs attention, it is normal and human.
True! Relationships, love, attention from others is a normal human need
What does confidence mean?
Confidence means feeling sure about yourself, feeling good about yourself, knowing you can do hard things if you try
Name 1 coping skill you can use when you feel lonely
Talk to a friend, distract yourself with something fun, journal, take deep breaths, remind yourself of all the positive things in your life.
How might someone feel when they are playing alone at recess?
Maybe happy if they like to play alone. Or they may feel sad, left out, lonely, etc
What makes someone a good friend?
They listen to you, they share, they care about you and your feelings.
True or False: Since everybody needs attention, it doesn't matter how you get it, any way is fine.
False! Even though it is normal human need, there are better ways than others to get attention.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself or how you see yourself. You can have high self-esteem and feel good and positive about yourself or you can have low self-esteem where you feel bad or not so good about yourself.
Name 2 coping skills you can use when your thoughts feel hard or scary
Draw or journal about it
Talk to someone
Think happy thoughts
Distract yourself with something positive
Put the thoughts in a "worry box" or "worry notebook"
Write them down, rip up the paper and throw it away
Name 2 things that make you feel like you belong
Great, thanks for sharing!
You can ask nicely, you can tell them how you feel using I statements, you can play with something else, you can walk away if you are really upset.
Name 3 good ways to get attention
Asking for help, waiting patiently to talk to someone when they are available, following directions and making good choices
True or False: People who are confident have low self-esteem.
False! People who are confident have high self-esteem. They feel good about themselves so they feel they can do anything they put their mind to.
Matt feels bored today so he is thinking about telling his teacher that he is having bad thoughts just so he can go to the guidance office to talk or play with the toys. Is this a good way to cope with his feelings? Why or why not?
No, it is not the best way because he is telling a fib to get out of class and his fib is very serious. Matt could try to focus in on what his teacher is saying, ask questions or take deep breaths until it is time for fun things like recess.
Name 3 things that make you feel happy
Awesome!
True or False: Good friends get in fights sometimes too,
True! Conflict happens, people don't always get along. However, good friends can find positive ways to work it out.
Name 4 not so good ways to get attention
Making a "scene", doing things to get in trouble, running away, crying, telling lies, etc.
Name 4 things you don't feel very confident in yet...What can you do to get more confident in them?
Thanks for sharing!
You can grow your confidence by saying nice things to yourself, trying your best, and reminding yourself that learning something new takes time and it's ok if you don't get it right away.
Sam feels sad and thinks no one in her class likes her. What can she do to cope with this feeling and thought?
She can check the facts and remind herself of people that do like her. She can talk to someone about it, journal or draw about it. She can focus on making other new friends. She can find something fun to do by herself.
If you walked into class and a friend looked at your outfit and said nothing...how would you feel?
Is that a helpful thought?
True or False: It is not ok to be angry with your friend.
False! It is ok to be angry. Everyone get's angry. It is not ok to yell, hit or throw things when we are angry. There are better ways we can react to our angry.
Tell about a time you tried to get attention in a not so good way...what could you do differently next time?
Thanks for sharing!
What are 5 things you feel confident in?
Awesome!
How might someone feel when their parent has to go away for a trip? What coping skills can they use?
They might feel excited for their parent, or sad, nervous or lonely. They can do something fun with another caregiver or sibling. They can write letters to their parent for when they return. They can call or video chat with their parent when they are available. They can draw, journal about it, do something positive as a distraction.
What feeling is the hardest to have? Or what feeling do you like having the least?
Thanks for sharing! Why do you think that is?
If you are angry or upset with your friend, what are good ways to handle it?
Talk it out, use I statements, stay calm, walk away if you need to, give them space, talk it out with someone else first to calm down