What's in it for me?
Truth #1: If we spend our time talking about boring and pointless things, we will unknowingly push ourselves deeper into the world of ___________.
What is boredom?
_______________ mental habits become roadblocks to developing Star Qualities.
What is negative?
_____________ is costly now and later. It removes you from the present moment and prevents you from actively engaging in your life as you engage in activities that waste your time and talent and prevent you from fully developing. In school you might socialize instead of using your class time well. In life you might shop online, building credit card debt, instead of paying your bills.
What is boredom?
Level 1: Life is on my mind.
This means that when you are in class or talking to a friend, you are really listening only to ___________.
What is yourself?
When you don't understand something (ITM) In The Moment, that is okay. Learning often occurs (ATF) _________ ________ _________.
What is After The Fact?
Truth #2: There is often ___________ in things we think are irrelevant. One of the biggest mistakes we make is that if we don't see the _____________ in something, we assume it's not there.
What is relevancy?
One such roadblock is _______________. This means that you are constantly expecting or anticipating negative results.
What is pessimism?
I.U.T.G.A.W.I.
What is "I Used To Get Away With It"?
Level 2: Judgmental
Give one example (from the book) of what we do in conversations when we are judgmental. HINT: not what we say...what we do in our communication.
What is 1. jump to conclusions, 2. over-react, 3. interrupt or finish other people's sentences, 4. quickly agree or disagree, 5. evaluate self or others?
Learning to be gentle with yourself is an important part of the learning process. People who want to learn and grow say to themselves, "That's okay. I just don't understand it ________."
They give themselves the benefit of the doubt and don't expect perfection, just progress.
What is yet?
Top 20's know that in order to EVOLVE, they must get _____________ in the class.
What is involved?
Name two other negative mental habits the book mentions.
What are anger, judgmental, grudges, sarcasm, self-centered, jealousy, apathy, procrastination, (pessimism), boredom, worry, self-doubt, and being mean?
Name two of the five hidden costs of procrastination.
What are anxiety, guilt, being overwhelmed, frustration, and worry?
Level 3: Distracted
The average person is distracted 22 minutes our of every 60 minutes. If you are average, you have lots of opportunities to practice, "_______ _______".
What is "Not Now"?
It's actually a lot less work in the long run to take a few minutes to _______________ yourself and make a plan than to just jump in because your feeling pressure to get it all done.
What is organize?
The process known as school offers you ________ ______________. Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could get ________ ______________ at the local fast food restaurant? You could just pull up at the drive-through and order what you'd like. "Hi, I'd like a double order of self-motivation."
What are Star Qualities?
The three step process to controlling negative mental habits, so they don't control you.
What are Name It, Claim It, and Tame It?
D.W.A.N.N.A.'s and D.F.L.I.'s
What are "Don't Wanna" and "Don't Feel Like It"?
Level 4: Processing
Although this is Above the Line listening, the problem with this level is that you are working so hard to be _____________ that you wear yourself out.
What is focused?
Missing the Boat means you missed out on something you would have benefitted from if you had been present. When you are not present, you can't expect the boat will be where it was when you left the dock. It is your job to ____________________.
What is 1. own the problem, 2. be proactive, 3. connect with a reliable study buddy, 4. attend support sessions (after school help)?
If we say that school is pointless and boring, that attitude will follow us into our future job, our dating life, etc. Star Qualities don't just appear once we graduate from high school. We have to be careful about what we believe because what we believe can lock us into a mindset..._________________.
What is permanently?
Boredom is a busy mind. The ___________ your thinking is going the more prone you are to be bored. That's why common expressions of energy like doodling, finger drumming, pen tapping, knee bouncing, day dreaming, and staring into space are all signs of an inability to stay present.
What is faster?
Don't wait for the motivation bus.
_______________ precedes (comes before) motivation. Getting started generates motivation and provides you with the energy to complete the task. You get motivated once you start doing whatever it is.
What is action?
Level 5: The Zone
It is only in The Zone that you get realizations about yourself, others, and your class. Your mind is quiet and calm. You are totally present to the moment, living in the _______.
What is the NOW?
When setting S.M.A.R.T. goals we must be W.I.S.E. This is what W.I.S.E. means.
What is Will-power, Initiative, Stamina, and Enthusiasm?