Zones of Regulation
If you are focused and calm, what zone are you in?
Green Zone
If you break your pencil, is that a big problem?
No
Should you say something that is true if it hurts someone's feelings?
No
Eyes on the speaker, body facing the speaker, hands and feet still, sitting/standing straight, nodding your head, mouth is closed
Ted is Stan's supervisor. Stan is doing something wrong at work. Ted corrects Stan and shows him how to do his job accurately. Is Ted a jerk?
No, Ted wants Stan to understand how to do his job better so that he can improve and can be dependable. Ted is doing Stan a favor by giving him feedback.
"I feel so tired I can't even keep my eyes open."
What zone?
Blue Zone
Is a car accident a big problem?
Yes, it can be.
Should I tell someone that I don't like their haircut? Why?
No, because it will make them feel bad.
When should we use Whole Body Listening?
In meetings, classroom presentations, at work, when talking to a friend or your boss, etc.
Martha is really upset because she lost a penny in her pocket. She is throwing things around the room and Darla sees her and asks what's wrong. Martha throws a glass of water in Darla's face. What zone is Martha in?
Does Martha's reaction fit the size of the problem?
Martha is in the red zone. Her reaction does not fit the size of the problem. She has a small problem but is having a big reaction.
Name a calming technique you can use if you are in the yellow zone.
If you have a big problem, what size should your reaction be?
Big
Why should we think before we speak?
Because we want to say things that are true, helpful, inspiring, necessary and kind. If what we say does not cover these 5 things, we might be upset someone or hurt their feelings.
Why should we use Whole Body Listening?
To show respect for what others are saying, so we don't make them feel bad.
Suzie got a new haircut and Brenda thinks it looks nasty. Should Brenda tell Suzie that her hair looks bad or use a social fake?
Definitely social fake!
What should you do if you're at work and you feel like you're in the yellow zone?
Ask for a break, get a drink of water, do some breathing techniques
If you have a big reaction to a small problem, what will people think of you?
They might be confused or afraid of you.
Say something that is true.
(could be anything, as long as it is true)
If we are not interested in something our boss is telling us, should we use a Social Fake?
Yes, if you are not interested in what they are saying you should still look as if you are listening.
Craig is talking about his new boat to Tina and Tina hates boats. What should Tina do?
If someone is making you angry, what zone are you in and what should you do about it?
You might be in the red or yellow zone. You can use a calming technique and/or tell them that you need to take a break and go talk to a friend or use a different calming strategy.
Why is it important that the size of your reaction fits the size of the problem?
If you have a big reaction to a small problem, people might be confused or afraid of you.
Pick someone in the room and say something that is kind.
(pick a person, say something kind)
Why is it important to be on time for meetings, classes and work?
Being on time is often a job requirement. You could get fired if you are not on time. It shows respect for the person leading the class or the meeting and shows that you value their time. People will want to work with you if you show respect for them.
Is this statement true or false:
When your boss or teacher corrects you or gives you advice, they are just being rude and trying to put you down.
False. Teachers and bosses are usually trying to teach you something new when they correct you or give you advice. They want you to learn something new and improve your performance in the future.