Goals
What is a goal
Something you want to do or achieve
An I-message is not just a way of texting. When communicating with people, it is a statement describing how someone feels and begins with the words "I feel..." Turn the following statement into an I-message
"You are so rude to me at recess when I ask to play with you."
"I feel hurt when I ask to play with you at recess and you tell me too many people are already playing."
What is stress?
Stress is what you feel when you are worried or uncomfortable about something.
When you have a decision to make, the first thing to do is Stop and Think.
True/False? and Why?
True. Stopping to think about your choice can stop you from making a poor one.
Yes or No - Is this a healthy choice and Why?
Andrew wanted to go on a trip with his parents, but they left him with a babysitter anyway. Andrew felt like ignoring the babysitter in order to get back at his parents.
No. Ignoring the babysitter would not be a safe choice, would disappoint my parents and would likely get me into trouble when they came back.
What is the first step in going for a goal?
Naming what you want to do
Communication is not just about how we speak to other people, but also about how we speak to ourselves. Turn this negative statement into a positive one - "I always fail social studies quizzes."
"I struggle a lot in social studies, so maybe I should try attending extra help."
Yes/No? Is exercise a good way to deal with stress? If so, what types of exercise do you engage in?
Yes. Answers will vary but some acceptable answers are, taking a walk, playing/doing a sport, yoga, riding my bike.
Peer pressure is when someone about your age tries to get you to do something. Give an example of peer pressure.
Yes or No - Would this be a healthy choice and why?
Martin was proud of his new shoes, but when he wore them to school a student told him that the shoes looked dumb. Martin felt like pushing this student for what they said.
No. If Martin pushes the student, they could get hurt and Martin will also end up in trouble for what he has done.
Instead, Martin should let the student know that what they said hurts his feelings and that their words don't matter because he loves them. (Confidence)
Why is it important to set a goal?
They help us get what we want
Positive or Negative? Why?
"We didn't win the game but I think I played really well."
Positive. You are acknowledging that there was a loss, but still giving yourself credit for playing your best.
Name 3 things that can cause stress.
Answers will vary, but some examples might be...
1. Arguments with friends
2. Certain subjects in school
3. Losing a game
4. Getting ready for a competition
Peer pressure is when we feel forced to do something by someone who is around our age. Name two good ways to deal with peer pressure
Answers will vary, but some acceptable examples are say no, walk away/ignore, suggest a better/different idea, speak with an adult
Yes or No - Is this a healthy choice and why?
Your sister has been ignoring you for three days so you ask her if you can talk it out.
Yes. Asking your sister will let her know you are upset that you have not been speaking and talking it out can help resolve the problem.
Who decides if a goal is achievable?
The person setting the goal!
Ben and Ali were working on a project together. They both had different ideas and began screaming at each other that their own ideas were the best. Describe how Ben and Ali could handle this situation differently.
Ben and Ali could both share their ideas and find a way to combine both of their ideas into the project.
**Screaming may sound loud, but it doesn't mean you are heard**
Thinking about the past, or what can happen in the future can cause us stress. What is something in YOUR past or future that causes you stress?
Answers will vary, but example will be something that occurred that caused feelings of being uncomfortable and worried.
Why is it important to think about decisions after you have made them?
So you can learn from your choices to see if you made a good choice or not
You receive your math test back and did much worse than you expected. You say to yourself, "I should be smarter in math." Turn this negative statement into a positive one.
Answers may vary, but an acceptable answer would be, "Next time I should try to study in a different way to see if it helps me improve my grade."
If your goal is to make new friends, list three things you could do to reach your goal.
Answers will vary, but some acceptable examples are:
1. Ask them to play with you
2. Have a conversation with someone about what they like to do
3. Treat everyone as you wish to be treated
Your friend broke a promise to you. He said he wouldn't tell your secret, but he did. Use a statement that begins with "I feel..." to let your friend know how you feel and why you feel that way.
Answers will vary, but an acceptable answer would be, "I feel sad that you broke your promise because it makes me feel like our friendship is not important to you."
Name three healthy ways to reduce stress or relax.
Answers will vary, but, exercise, talk to someone, take a walk, listen to music, color, read a book, meditate/breathe
Healthy choices are not just about the foods we eat, but the way we choose to behave. What are some healthy choices you make for yourself and others.
Answers will vary, but some acceptable answers are, respect others, talk to someone when something is bothering me, exercise, listen when someone is talking to me, help someone in need, ask for help when needed.
Is this following statement positive or negative? Why?
"I trust myself to make my own decisions."
This statement is positive because when you trust yourself it means you believe you are good enough to accomplish something