Indicators
How many victim-role indicators are there?
What is seven.
"The only reason I did that was because I was tired and frustrated."
What is justifying their actions by their feelings.
Name one corrective thinking habit for the victim-role thinking barrier.
What is focus on fulfilling their obligations to others, rather than looking for ways others owe them something, avoid making excuses, blaming others, or trying to justify inappropriate behavior, promptly admit when they are wrong OR work toward earning the trust and respect of others.
Time-Bomb Tactics are used to avoid..
What is responsibility and accountability.
What day is the last day of school?
What is June 7th, this Friday!
Name three victim-role indicators.
What is refusing to take personal responsibility, claiming to be the victim, attempting to gain sympathy, blaming, justifying their actions by feelings, refusing to see their part in making a situation worse, or complaining.
"BUT they started the fight! I was only punching back to protect myself."
What is refusing to take responsibility for their role in negative activities OR claiming to be the victim when being held accountable.
"I know fighting back was not a good idea and there are no excuses. It was my fault and I made the choice to fight back."
What is avoid making excuses, blaming others, or trying to justify inappropriate behavior.
This Time-Bomb Tactic is often used by just grinning, nodding and saying "uh-huh."
What is "does not pay attention".
Honeydew is a variety of what?
What is melon.
Name three things that people in the victim-role frequently blame.
What is ethnic heritage, family circumstances, environment, life circumstances, fate, authority, family members, the way they are treated, friends, culture, race, and religion.
"That cop has it in for me! He follows me and always assumes I'm breaking the law."
What is blaming: authority.
"I am focusing on taking responsibility for my actions while proving to my family members that I can follow rules and expectations."
What is working toward earning the trust and respect of others.
What Time-Bomb Tactic is being used when someone attaches definitions of their own to make words and change these definitions as it suits them, often in mid-argument.
What is argues over "words" to avoid the real issue.
What upcoming year is the next leap year?
What is 2020.
Give an example of someone using the victim-role indicator: refusing to see their part in making a situation worse.
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"I know you're mad at me, but imagine what I went through and how I was feeling. It was terrible and I'm so sad over the situation."
What is attempting to gain sympathy from those confront them.
"I know that punching back was the wrong choice and I made a mistake. I am sorry."
What is promptly admitting when they are wrong.
What closed thinking indicator are you using if every day during group, you check-in with, "I'm fine." or "I don't have anything to talk about."
What is closed thinking: failure to disclose.
What happens when you roll three consecutive doubles in a game of Monopoly?
What is you go to jail..
Give an example of a time when you played the victim role and which victim-role indicator were you using at the time?
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"Nothing ever goes my way, I never get a break."
What is blaming: fate.
Give an example of a time when you moved away from victim-role thinking and used a corrective thinking habit for personal accountability.
& which corrective thinking habit did you use.
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Name one of the three indicators of the first Thinking Barrier, Closed Thinking.
What is failure to be receptive, failure to disclose, failure to be self-critical.
How many players are in a standard basketball team?
What is five.