Just a Regular Scenario
1. Child is playing with their friend at recess. The friend looks tired and says they need a break
a. Yells at their friend and tells them “you’re not taking a break”
b. Rolls eyes and walks away
c. Tells them “that’s okay we can keep playing when you’re ready”
What is c. Tells them “that’s okay we can keep playing when you’re ready”
Child trips over someone else’s backpack and falls
a. Yells at the person for putting their backpack there
b. Kicks the backpack
c. Stands up and calmly asks them to move the backpack
What is c.
Stands up and calmly asks them to move the backpack
This is the circle I can talk about personal news but not intimate feelings.
This is the sign for the yellow circle
What is a Handshake
2. Child is asked to come up and take one turn at the smartboard during class
a. Tells the teacher the smartboard activity is dumb
b. Walks up to the smartboard and takes one turn
c. Runs to the smartboard and takes more than one turn without stopping
What is b. Walks up to the smartboard and takes one turn
Child is reading to the class and mixes up their words
a. Throws the book down and says “I hate reading”
b. Tries to read the words again or ask for help
c. Puts their head down and refuses to keep reading
What is b. Tries to read the words again or ask for help
Acquaintances, teachers, and classmates belong in this circle.
What is yellow
This is the sign for the green circle
What is a far away hug
1. Teacher asks the child to walk quietly to the door when leaving the library
a. Swipes a book off a shelf and runs to the door
b. Ignores the teacher and continues to read a book
c. Saves the page and walks to the door
What is c. Saves the page and walks to the door
Child is told to put on his seatbelt
a. Puts on seatbelt
b. Fakes putting on his seatbelt
c. Says “Make me!” and sticks out his tongue
What is a. Puts on seatbelt
These people belong in the green circle (There are two).
Who are extended family and best friends.
The sign for the blue circle
Hug
4. Child’s teacher asks everyone to line up nicely along the wall for gym
a. Runs to the other side of the gym before lining up
b. Lines up on the wall
c. Jumps on the bench and rolls on the floor
What is b. Lines up on the wall
Child gets scratched by the neighbour’s pet mouse
a. Yells at the neighbor
b. Get’s a bandaid
c. Storms away and tells the mouse “I hate you!”
What is b. Get’s a bandaid
This is the level of touch in the green circle.
What is a far away hug, quick hugs at greetings, and not body to body.
The trust rule in the blue circle
What is Full Trust
2. Child is in the drive through and there’s a big line up.
a. Gets angry and yells
b. Waits patiently for the cars to move
c. Says they’re not hungry anymore and refuses to wait
What is b. Waits patiently for the cars to move
Child is using the computer and the internet keeps cutting out
a. Take a deep breath, and tells an adult
b. Yells at the computer
c. Slams the monitor down
What is a. Take a deep breath, and tells an adult
Things we can talk about in the yellow circle.
What is nothing personal, small talk.
The level of trust in the yellow circle
What is limited (I don't know them very well)